Doctor prescribed estrogen cream; anything I should know?

    Had my first post-hysterectomy annual exam and mentioned a discomfort that I thought would turn out to be some sort of damage from the speculum or clamps or something that happened during the surgery–(thickening of injured tissue or something.) Turns out it’s just regular old menopausal discomfort in the opening of the vagina and I now have this cream I’m supposed to use nightly for 3 weeks, then as needed. (OBVIOUSLY, I’m not starting tonight!)

    Has anyone else done this? Any cautions, things to look out for? He warned us there’s no suddenly feeling frisky in the middle of the night after I’ve applied it.

    I made sure he knew it is very important to me (us) that we continue to be able to have a vibrant sex life as long as possible. (And what a great doctor God has blessed me with! He is able to put me totally at ease for talking about the most awkward things. He assures me he has heard it all and there is nothing I can talk about that will surprise him in the slightest. SO comforting when you need to bring up something awkward! IF YOU DON’T HAVE A DOCTOR LIKE THAT, CHANGE DOCTORS! It’s totally worth it!

    Under the stars Asked on February 14, 2020 in Menopause .

    My estrogen levels were undetectable when my labs were drawn last May.
    I started estrogen cream last June from a compounding pharmacy thru Defy and my hot flashes disappeared within one week.
    My life has changed dramatically for the better.
    I apply the cream to my inner thighs a half an hour or so after my morning shower.
    I originally started using at night, but was concerned with transferring estrogen topically to DH during intimacy…..
    Since we’re not usually intimate in the am, I switched to morning applications.
    I rotate which leg I apply cream….and kinda duck walk around without clothing until it’s dry.
    I do believe my skin isn’t as fragile, and my emotions seem more “like me” since I started bhrt. The lack of hot flashes was my biggest blessing, everything else, a bonus.

    on February 16, 2020.
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      @SC: That’s a very legit answer and even cuts off my intended follow-up question before I could ask it.

      The question was going to be whether there was a difference in “fixing” something that was “broken” (I know those are both horrible words, but I don’t have good substitutes) versus combatting the “natural” aging process.


      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 20, 2020.
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        @Scott, I believe that is very close to the wording my husband used and I have had others use when speaking of menopause and HRT…. the “natural” process. In someway, they believe they are upholding God’s design, all the while forgetting what God’s true design and creation was, and that it is the destruction of sin (the dying process) we are experiencing.

        @Duchess, congratulations on the good experience! I appreciate you sharing because I log that away in my memory for my own future decisions. Oh how I have wished for an “easy button”, but in my life, there are things that keep delaying a doctor visit for hormone testing. It’s okay though, God’s doing a work in me and I believe He continues to answer my prayers of Him consecrating my hormones for His purpose of me. I just keep hoping that frequent sex is doing my body well.

        Under the stars Answered on February 21, 2020.
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          @Scott–SC beat me to it: Sin is what has gone against God’s design; medicines and devices made by brains that God created and blessed with scientific ability and creativity are tools he has given us to overcome the effects of sin. We dealt with this question on a very primary level when going through infertility. If God didn’t bless us with a child in the usual way, were we going against his will to try Clomid, IUI, and HCG injections? Nope. We realized that my body was malfunctioning because I was born into sin and into a sinful world full of disease and death, and that God had provided people and centuries of knowledge to try to counter those twin offspring of sin. It didn’t work for me, but that doesn’t  make it wrong.

          I’m guessing that if Adam and Eve had remained in the garden into their dotage, he would have had the same erections he had when Eve was first created and Eve would have O’ed every single time, and God would have personally instructed them in new positions and techniques. They would have grown whole gardens full of interestingly shaped veggies and found fun things to do with them and probably grown some things with properties unknown in fallen Earth’s agriculture: a silky, slippery sort of juice that tastes good or warms on the skin, or tingles might come from a little round fruit or maybe some berries would hug nipples tighter and tighter the longer they were in contact with skin until they could only be eaten off.

          We don’t know what might be possible in terms of health and body function if sin had never entered the world, so since it has, the only thing we can do is accept the blessings God has given us to work around our limitations.

          ETA: I answered before I saw there were more answers on a page 2; apologies if I come across as argumentative. 

          Under the stars Answered on February 21, 2020.
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            @ SC–Thanks! 😀 And I am sure the frequent sex is doing your body good, under the “use it or lose it” theory. Also, my doctor didn’t actually test my hormones, he just did the usual exam (which is apparently still a thing, even when you have a fraction of your former anatomy) paying attention to the areas I told him were irritated. I think where I thought I had an itchy area where a thickness had formed beneath the skin and caused irritation, what I actually felt was the remaining strong muscle underneath deteriorating tissue! The labia  were, I guess, drying up, somewhat literally (hence the itching) and thinning out to where the only thing with bulk was muscle. (I do have relatively strong PC muscles.) The difference is amazing, and yes probably at least partially due to the placebo effect, but I’ll take it!

            I’ve always felt physical arousal as a cross between an electric current and a need to pee. I feel like the power has been turned back on! Not letting it go off again, that’s for sure.

            Under the stars Answered on February 21, 2020.
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              Hi Dutchess–

              My wife had cancer and had a hysterectomy and oophorectomy, all postmenopausal. She sailed thru menopause with not much more than a few hot flashes.  Sex was actually better for her afterwards.  But loosing her ovaries pretty much put an end to sex.

              She was also prescribed vaginal estrogen cream.  It does indeed fix vaginal symptoms, and does it quickly.  However, all the cream does is treat symptoms.  It does not treat the underlying problem of low blood estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels caused by the loss of ovaries.  The vaginal cream is designed to NOT be absorbed into the blood stream. This is because of the belief that estrogen is carcenogenic. The vaginal cream did nothing for her low libido, lack of lubrication during arousal, weight gain, etc. etc. etc.

              She went on bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy.  She gets two kinds of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. She is enjoying the best sex and the best general health of her life.

              It is true that large amounts of either estrogen or testosterone will promote cancer growth in a lab. However, there is no evidence that normal hormone levels contribute to cancer risk.  Progesterone actually retards cancer growth. 

              So please research bHRT.  To find a doctor, go to and click on and click on Directory.  Better yet, call a local compounding pharmacy and ask for referrals.


              Queen bed Answered on February 23, 2020.
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