Does a planned date night come with the expectation of sex?

    Is there an expectation or even an outright agreement that a date night leads to or involves sex?

    What percentage of date nights has sex as a component?

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      No. It definitely is possibility but not an outright agreement.

      Maybe 50% . We can go to bed happy without sex after a great night together and not feel that we must have sex.

      Under the stars Answered on June 28, 2020.
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        My husband had/has an expectation of it until/unless we talk about it beforehand and plan not to. Now, we are actually more likely not to on datenight, than other days (other than Sunday).

        Under the stars Answered on June 28, 2020.
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          No, I don’t think at all. Truthfully, if it included a nice dinner, I probably would be too full and most likely NOT want to when we arrived home. Now if we truly connected in a deeply emotionally way, DW is probably gonna want to make love…and who am I to say no and not honor her request. 😀

          Now if that meal was a lunch on a day off together (usually Fridays) and we had some deep conversations, I’d be more likely to expect and desire it later. In all honesty though, we probably made love that morning so an evening adventure would be a bonus…and, if it’s been a busy week and we hadn’t made love much, a good possibility.

          Under the stars Answered on June 28, 2020.
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            Being married comes with an expectation of sex!  Every other day comes with an expectation of sex.  Date night?  Absolutely  The norm is coming together so the evil one will not tempt you.  Date night is nice bonus and blessing, but not a requirement!!  Sex is.

            On the floor Answered on June 28, 2020.
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              Well there’s about 4 days of the month that the answer is no, otherwise yes.
              Date night is a probably yes.
              Date night with the kids gone too? I mean…..what else are we doing?

              Fell out of ... Answered on June 28, 2020.
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                It used to. Nowadays, DH would be way too tired. The next morning would be a certainty if it’s the weekend.

                On the floor Answered on June 28, 2020.
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                  Not at all. My wife and I are very affectionate. If that night happens to not have sex for any number of reasons I love her and show her all the same.

                  Twin bed Answered on June 28, 2020.
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                    Not necessarily. There are times that it might be pretty likely, but unless spoken of beforehand, it should not be assumed.

                    -Scott

                    Under the stars Answered on June 28, 2020.

                    I was scrolling on my iPad and I seem to have downvoted your answer Scott. No idea how to change it but please don’t be offended.

                    on June 29, 2020.

                    No offense, it happens. Not the first time I’ve been downvoted either!

                    on June 29, 2020.
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                      Date night with a meal? NO, unless we have sex before hand, if we got out, eat, movie etc. no sex. I probably would, wife, no way. We quit doing that 25 years ago.

                       

                      On the floor Answered on June 28, 2020.
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                        I used to expect. Learned the hard way that it was just planning frustration. So I quit expecting it, and started getting more of it….imagine that!

                        Put the shoe on the other foot – You would be better suited not to set it up to where a date night is required or expected before sex. The two should really be mutually exclusive. Have a good date, have good sex, or have one with or without the other. But if a couple mutually wants to make a regular thing of date night that includes sex, then I see nothing wrong with it, as lone as that’s not the only time sex happens.

                        On the floor Answered on June 28, 2020.
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