Does great sex create a happy marriage, or vice versa?
I don’t know if this is the exact fit with your question, but there are two of us on here who changed our sexual ways and our marriages. She started working on the sexual side and that improved her marriage. I worked on our marriage and that improved the sexual side.
Great sex over a sustained period of time can be a fruit of a great marriage but it is not a foundation of a great marriage. Trust is one of those foundations of a great marriage and you cannot have great sex without great trust. Build trust, destroy fears and phobias and work your way to great sex.
Interesting question. I believe a great marriage creates great desire. My wife and I have had a great marriage from day one. And, we had great desire for one another. However, our sex life is greater today than when we first married. We were virgins when we married. We were modest around each other. We had sex in the dark under the cover, never slept naked, foreplay and sex was over in 15 – 20 minutes. Through the years we have added OS and toys, and talking during sex, role play, dressing up for sex. Our sex is greater now, much more frequent and way more playful. Is our marriage better, because our sex life is better? I’d say no, our marriage was great from the start.