DW finishing HJ

    Question for other DW’s (but DH’s are encouraged to answer too) … when giving DH  a hand job (and not a quickie- but passionate and/or erotic play time), as he is reaching PONR …. do you slow down hand speed, maintain same speed or speed up to facilitate his O and ejaculation?

    And also during  that sequence of events, does your grip loosen, stay same or tighten?

    Lastly, once he is done, do you continue your handy work to induce some past-O tease/torture or not ?.

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      I vary my speed throughout, but keeping a strady pressure, I think.

      When he’s getting close to PONR, he often starts thrusting and I keep my hand steady and/or assist, I guess by instinct?!

      Afterwards, I often keep on for a bit, until ‘forced’ to stop, and he collapses totally in a laughing spell. I love, LOVE that laugh!

      King bed Answered on September 7, 2019.

      That “forced stop – love the electric snaps they feel when we keep going for a bit

      6 days ago.
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        Generally, she keeps the same speed but starts flicking the frenulum as I ejaculate. It produces some very intense sensations and really makes the orgasm awesome.

        Hammock Answered on September 7, 2019.
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          1–I never thought about it; I think I probably speed up a bit.

          2–My grip has to always stay somewhat loose. DH for some reason does not care for lube with HJ, though I think I would prefer to use it. But it’s his choice.

          3–Nope. He’s WAAAAY too sensitive and doesn’t tolerate additional stimulation. 🙁

          On the floor Answered on September 7, 2019.
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            For this DH, at the PONR and during the O, slower, firmer, and lengthier strokes work best. After the orgasm subsides, it’s hands-off! Immediate sensitivity sets in and any touch is painful.

            Hammock Answered on September 7, 2019.
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              For me it works best to change things up during. But once I get close, it’s best to keep up a firm more rapid motion. After the O, I like continued stimulation for some time but at a much slower speed. That usually leads to a good laugh. My wife particularly likes that part.

              Twin bed Answered on September 7, 2019.
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                Probably more than half the time I’ll take over and finish myself. When I was younger I couldn’t take stimulation once the O arrived, but now I feel ripped off if DW doesn’t keep going through it and beyond.

                Hammock Answered on September 8, 2019.
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                  when giving DH  a hand job (and not a quickie- but passionate and/or erotic play time), as he is reaching PONR …. do you slow down hand speed, maintain same speed or speed up to facilitate his O and ejaculation?

                  In general I would say speed it up. It enhances the excitement of the coming O. Also if its comfortable for both of you direct his penis towards a part of your body like the face or breasts. It can be very alluring for a husband to ejaculate on his wife.

                  And also during  that sequence of events, does your grip loosen, stay same or tighten?

                  Personally keeping the grip the same is more desirable. It can be easy to squeeze too tightly and that can make it unpleasant.

                  Lastly, once he is done, do you continue your handy work to induce some past-O tease/torture or not ?

                  After O I am pretty sensitive down there so only slow, rhythmic motion that quickly dies down is desirable after an O.

                  Hammock Answered on September 11, 2019.
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                    We use lubricant to get the nice and slippery feeling. As I get close she gets more focused on the long up/down stroking and tightens her grip slightly. Sometimes she speed up as well, but I tell her to slow down again to maximize pleasure. She stops and just hold still as I ejaculate since I get very sensitive at that point.

                    Twin bed Answered on September 12, 2019.
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                      My DW is very attentive and asks me what i need at that moment. Mind you, she normally climbs on top of me before we get to finish by HJ. She loves being on top.

                      Twin bed Answered 6 days ago.
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                        There was a great website someone on the old marriage bed forum told me about. Website is not up anymore, but a guy has captured 2 of the videos from it and posted on youtube. The videos have a woman demonstrating how to do different handjobs on a dildo.  I want to say there were like 15 different ones. My wife found it helpful. Its not porn, but I hesitate to post link here. PM

                        Twin bed Answered 6 days ago.
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