Erection issues and possible Low T.

    Would appreciate prayers as I go to the urologist on Tuesday.

    I have been having persistent erection problems since the last time my wife and I had intercourse back in May. My erectile quality has decreased (i.e. decreased length and girth) and it takes more effort to maintain an erection. Stimulation also is less enjoyable than before.

    I believe I can still have intercourse (planning to test it before I head to the doc) but it is a problem.

    There seem to be two issues. One is the penial injury I endured 3 years ago that resulted in Peryonie’s disease. The other is low testosterone. 

    I got tested at my primary care doc for low T. They said the results were in the “normal range” but after checking my records it appears to be “low normal”.

    My numbers were 219 ng/dL for total testosterone. The reference range given was 175-781 ng/dL. 

    Please pray for my emotional state. The possibility of losing the ability to have sex is affecting my feelings of adequacy as a man. Additionally I struggle with feelings of anger and bitterness towards DW as our sex life has never been stellar and now there may be no chance of improvement.

    On the floor Asked on August 2, 2020 in PROBLEMS.
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      An excellent urologist will be a good listener, open, and caring to hear and understand your physical and emotional concerns. In fact, he ought to welcome your concern so that he can address it with you. You are too young, your marriage and marriage bed too important, and your well-being are strong reasons to be bold, honest, and comfortable to talk with him (I shouldn’t assume he is a man).

      Dear, Lord, please lift up SLS, right now. May he know Your grace and peace. Give his doctor wisdom. Encourage SLS. Strengthen their marriage. In Jesus name, Amen!

      Under the stars Answered on August 2, 2020.
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        So I am on TRT in my early 30’s. My total T was 295 ng/dL and I had low libido, depression, some ED, and general crumminess… A primary care physician decided to put me on trt with ONE SMALL SHOT OF TEST CYP PER MONTH. I immediately decided it was a no go and called a popular telemedicine TRT clinic. It turns out my story is extremely common.

        Now my total and free T are at the high end of range and my libido is better (not strong but it’s at least there), wood can punch through the drywall at times, and my mental stance has improved. I just feel way less down on myself.

        The thing about TRT that is pretty common knowledge among those who do it is that you have to do a good amount of research for yourself to determine if the medical professionals you are seeing are treating you according to…or even in the ballpark of the modern standards.

        You might have to dig in your heels and fight for yourself and your health on this one. TRT can take a couple months to even get started, then sometimes several months old get dialed in.

        Good luck bro.

        Queen bed Answered on August 3, 2020.

        Thank you for sharing!  You are so right!

        on August 3, 2020.
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          You are really low for your age, and everything you mentioned, including the part of your mental state, can be fueled by low T. Be ready to advocate for your own health and not just settle for a doctor who will let you live this way because it falls into insurance pushed set of “normal” numbers.

          Under the stars Answered on August 2, 2020.
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            Well, low T will make motivation difficult, so once your numbers improve (assuming you get trt) your motivation to improve things will be a whole lot easier. Your attitude is in part due to circumstances, but in larger part due to the low t itself.
            I suggest cutting your wife and yourself some slack, hormone imbalances ‘disturb the force’ or at least make things seem more difficult than they really are.
            Right now focus on agape love, grace to yourself and your wife and when you’ve consulted with the urologist then maybe the questions will answer themselves.

            My DH is 62, and on trt and occasionally takes viagra. He doesn’t always take it, or always need it, sometimes we wing it. We had some rough times at the beginning of his issues with low t and ED, but I can promise you there is light at the end of this tunnel. You’re seeing through a glass darkly, be kind to yourself and your wife…..because this is a moment in time that you will be grateful God and Science helped you overcome…..and you will be grateful that you remembered to be sweet toward your wife.

            I cannot have imagined that at my age/my husband’s age, we’d be having the best sex of our lives.

            Hang in there.

            Praying for you!

            King bed Answered on August 2, 2020.
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              brother, don’t give up. I am “older”, a diabetic, and a heart patient. I have not had a full on erection in years. I WII NOT GIVE UP, ESP. SEX. I am exersizing and watching my blood sugar. I am praying for wife and my sex life. We are working on it. There are lots of problems. Remember Galaxy Quest: Never give up!! Never Surrender!!. Exersize, eat well, seek treatment. Remember, silly men do sex wdith thier p#n1$, wise men do it with thier whole mind, body, spirit and soul. Get imaginitive, play games (how many times can I make her O with my fingers ( 🙂 or toes 🙂 !!!). semper fi, bro. will pray.

              Double bed Answered on August 2, 2020.
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                I pray for you. I think they will be able to get you going again though. Viagra works wonders. You might have low T or other hormone problems. I am like you, getting older and somewhat resentful of a less than stellar sex life.

                On the floor Answered on August 2, 2020.

                He’s in his 20’s, IIRC. Too young to call these issues “normal”.

                on August 2, 2020.

                I didn’t realize he is in his 20’s.
                Are we sure?
                I guess I am confused, because his posts always appeared to be so thoughtful I assumed he was wise and older.
                LOL, that’s reverse agism, isn’t it???

                on August 2, 2020.

                He is absolutely in his mid-late 20’s unless he turned 30 very recently. He is one of the few regulars younger than me! 🙂

                on August 2, 2020.

                Oh, I didn’t now he was late 20’s, I would agree that T level is really low for that age. There are other hormones that can affect sexuality too. I would definitely seek a hormone doctor for advice and treatment.

                on August 3, 2020.

                That does change things, I did assume he is older.
                Maybe a consult with an endocrinologist is needed to rule out pituitary issues?

                on August 3, 2020.
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