Erection Quality Preference
Wives, according to the chart below, what is your preference in hardness for you to enjoy sex with your husband and why?
Is Level 4 ideal all the time or some of the time? Why?
I am with LuckyInLove and define sex as PIV, so 3-4 is needed, but from previous QNAs on here, I realize many define it differently.
We have experienced time frames of them all, because of low T issues in my husband.
I enjoy beginning OS while he is flaccid and feeling it grow. There are things you can orally do with a penis while soft, that you can’t when it’s rigid. And as it hardens, it is a gauge of his enjoyment. But, when he could NOT physically, it still felt good to him and to me, so I used it as an encouragement to him that we can stay sexual no matter the lack of certain capabilities, and enjoy each other.
In that same low T timeframe, there was a slow diminishing of quality. Much of the time hovering in the level 3 & 2 range. Trust me, if he was a 2, he worked at stuffing that baby in there, LOL. I was able to get some enjoyment out of it, but the longer this went on, the harder it became to enjoy, and I even came to a point of “why even try”. I was feeling nothing physically and my mental/emotional was taking a hard hit with lots of uncertainties, doubts, and fears surfacing. But my husband thought as long as he could get his ‘P in the V’, even if by stuffing, he was still functioning sexually and was fine (therefore no reason to seek out TRT).
After the first visit to the dr and he came home with some generic viagra, I had forgotten how glorious a level 4 penis is!
My view in short, all levels can be enjoyable, for a time. But if a lower level goes on for too long, WHEN it’s because of a CHOICE to do nothing about it, the heart and mind change, and enjoyment is gone.
I guess I don’t understand the question . . . doesn’t it need to be at Level 3 or 4 to have sex? Or are we not talking about PIV?
In our case, if my DH is even thinking about sex, it’s already at a level 2 or 3 and it’s at level 4 within minutes, so it’s hard for me to answer the question. If you are asking about OS or HJ, I would want it at a 3 or 4, just so that I know what I’m doing feels good.
For us, we prefer 4 for PIV, because it’s not going in unless it’s that hard.
OS – she likes it when it’s smaller and softer for the variety — she can do a lot more. Of course, it doesn’t stay that way for long…
HJ – needs to be 4 for anything pleasurable.
AS- not gonna happen no matter where on the scale.
Here’s Mrs. Oldbear’s answer . . . we’ve talked about it! At my age, my erection level tends toward the lower end of the scale. However, at any level I experience wonderful orgasms. Mrs. Oldbear loves PIV (possible at Level 3 or 4). OTOH, she and I care more about intimacy, and if my O happens at Level 1 or 2 she derives great satisfaction – me, too!’ In fact, it’s rather erotic for both of us when I powerfully O at Level 1 or 2.
Since I am unable to ediit the original, let’s do the hardness preference based on the activities:
The reason I am asking because I have read that some women prefer Level 4 hardness as the best while other women say that Level 4 is too much.
Going with the list, my preferences are below, but with the “any” answers, there is a factor that there are limitations, such as stamina, and higher the level, the quicker things get completed:
PIV – 4, because it stimulates like nothing else does.
OS – any
HJ – any
AS – 3, because it’s more comfortable when it’s a little flexible.