Explaining if your kids see you

    1. How would you explain to your child if he/she sees you having PIV sex or oral sex
    Queen bed Asked on July 8, 2019 in Children.
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      I believe I would address the fact that they entered a closed door without knocking first.

      After that, we would address this is what married people do, how it’s a beautiful, God created thing, all while they are turning red and wishing the conversation was over. 😀 LOL

      Under the stars Answered on July 8, 2019.
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        Here is what I DON’T recommend you do…Refuse to acknowledge what you and your wife was doing and allowing the moment to be a teaching moment to explain what sex within marriage is and how valuable it is in marriage.  If they saw, please don’t be upset at them.  Give them the benefit of the doubt because you don’t want to shame them if this was an innocent mistake or due to your own negligence in not keeping the door locked.

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 8, 2019.
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          I would explain this way. Just as kids study and go to school and need play time, mom dad  need to relax and this is how married couples

          play.

          Queen bed Answered on July 8, 2019.
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            @Elevation, when parents have taught and are teaching that if a door is closed, ESPECIALLY a bedroom or bathroom door, to knock before entering (because not all doors have locks), whose negligence is it, the parents’ or the child? 🙂

            Under the stars Answered on July 8, 2019.
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              Good answers SC and E.

              In addition, I would tell them that they might not understand very much now about what Mom and Dad were doing (or even think it was gross), but when the time is right, we’ll explain more and answer any questions that they might have. And someday when they get married, they will also have special times with their spouse.

              Under the stars Answered on July 8, 2019.
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                It is difficult to explain the moaning etc to kids, they feel dad is hurting mom.

                Queen bed Answered on July 8, 2019.

                I assume then that they’re pretty young? 1 – was the door closed? If so, this is the time for a stern lesson about knocking. 2 – speak to their level of understanding to let them know that what they saw is normal for married couples but it’s private, which is why the door was closed. 3 – MOST IMPORTANT mom needs to be the one to assure them that she wasn’t being hurt and dad then needs to reassure them that he would never hurt mom or them.

                on July 8, 2019.
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                  @SC Depends…My DW will leave the bedroom door unlocked because this act has slipped her mind.  I agree that teaching the kids about respect and knocking is important…we are also prone to human error. 🙂

                  Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 8, 2019.
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                    We’ve tried to make sex an intimate but also relaxed/fun thing for our kids to be aware of in our marriage. They’ve walked in on us at various points, and we’ve just redirected them gently out, but not tried to panic or make a big deal of it or shamed them. As a result, we feel our kids have a good view of their own bodies and future sexuality shared with a future spouse.

                    California King Answered on July 8, 2019.
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