In the past, it took a while for my DW to relax, warm up, and let go enough to become aroused. However, once she did, she was able to enjoy the pleasure for a long while before O.
However, twice lately, she still took a normal amount of time to warm up and relax and let go, but then O’d suddenly as soon as she became aroused. She doesn’t seem to have any idea why it happened.
Ideas as to why that might happen? Dont know if she’s more sensitive? Or able to relax faster? Maybe something is changing?
That’s exciting news for you two! Happy for you!
It could be that she is having an awakening. Which is quite common for ladies at various stages of life – after finishing having kids, nearing peri-menopause, menopause, etc.
It might also be skill development – you both have just got better at doing this and finding more likely ways to O.
It may have to do with hormonal fluctuations. Either the stage of her monthly cycle or another stage of life.
It could be health related, having enough sleep, feeling really relaxed and comfortable, or especially loved.
I hope it keeps happening!
The time it takes for my wife to orgasm varies based on the length of time since last O, what kind of stress she is under, how well rested she is, etc. She needs to use a wand to O, but sometimes it happens as fast as 5 minutes and other times she is pleasured but does not have an O even after 45 minutes of vibration.
To clarify, it’s like she usually is able to relax and just enjoy the pleasure for a while. But this time it was like it went straight from the slight discomfort of moving towards pleasure and arousal straight into orgasm. No basking in pleasure in the middle.
As opposed to her normal path of enjoy kissing and caressing – endure slightly sexual tough till she’s actually aroused – bask in pleasure – great orgasm.
So I’m not sure it was positive.
Maybe it’s a transitional stage. Great. But that particular experience didn’t section be great.
And she has never had multiple O’s.
My wife takes anywhere from 10-40 minutes to O, depending on where she’s at in her cycle, how much sleep she’s been getting, and many other factors. However, there’s been a few occasions that it’s only taken 3-5 minutes. They have tended to be times that she’s been very excited about sex—lots of foreplay during the day leading up to sex at night.
Can you please clarify two things:
- Does your DW still find sex enjoyable after getting an O, even if she doesn’t get a second one?
- Is your DW’s orgasm significantly less pleasurable if it happens early like that?
If the answer to #1 is yes and and #2 is no, then in some ways this is more an academic question. If either answer is different, then I can see working to get this figured out.
As far as what causes this, you have a lot of good answers here already, and most of the causes for this are considered good. As your DW gets more experience with this, she may be able to read her body more and know what’s coming and guide you in a way to make sure she doesn’t go early (sort of like edging).