Feeling frisky when the kids are in the house…
Our 4 are all teens. We lock the door and use music but we’ve pretty well always done whatever we feel like. Honestly, maybe we’ve ruined our kids, but I dont really care if they know we’re having sex. Can it be embarrassing? Sure, and we’ve gotten our share of “eeewww” from our kids, but, I’d rather they grow up knowing that married couples do, and should, enjoy a healthy, even robust sex life. Too often, in trying to raise a righteous progeny, we have instilled a lot of negative mentality and beliefs about sexuality.
2 babies have to be in napping. Get other kids busy on movie or video game for 2 players…allow volume to be higher. Our bedroom is upstairs so I can get her to go ahead of me, I follow later after pretending I’m a specific site on my computer, then side step into our bedroom. Then listen for possible approaching steps to our locked door. Cameras tells all.
It was most challenging for when the impromptu frisky urges came! Back in those days with kids at home, we used all kinds of distractions to keep them occupied. If the weather permitted we sent them outside. Often we waited until they went to bed.
We just go to the room and lock the door. Our door is usually closed due to location to living room and if getting ready or a nap, I’m a step dad to teen girls so it’s not unusual. Wife also has a fan she likes on to sleep with and she has another by the door she’ll turn on by the door if there’s the probability we’ll make love.
Mornings are nice because the kids enjoy sleeping in and with their rooms on the other side of the house, not too big a deal. Afternoons/evenings? Silence reactions are better than our typical howling when no one is home! 😀
Now that both birds have come back to the nest (temporarily), the game has changed. Shadows of old norms are creeeeping their way back in. Stress was never an aphrodisiac. I had started the habit of closing the bedroom door every time we go to the bedroom regardless if sex was on the table or not – just to set a norm and remove a potential barrier. I/we had gotten out of that habit. Gotta start it again….