For the Ladies: How do I get her back?
Question for the ladies:
I’ve been talking with a woman, and both of us like each other a lot (we did, at least). But I said something, that she took in the total opposite way that I intended, and now won’t speak to me. Here’s the timeline.
At the beginning of the week, we were talking on the phone. I’m a deep thinker, and love having theoretical discussions about subjects, outside of their personal application. So I asked her what she thought about a particular viewpoint, that was contrary to the one she holds. I did this purely from a desire to spark a discussion, and see if we could learn more about the subject together. I played devil’s advocate when she made particular assertions, not in an aggressive way, but merely asking her what she thought about the counter-point. She, being very passionate about the issue, took it as me taking the opposite position. I’m not going to specify precisely what the issue is, but suffice to say that it’s a very important, very sensitive theological issue.
The strange thing, is that she didn’t react negatively right away. We got together for a date two days later, and I thought we were at a “transition point” in our relationship. I was ready to progress things, so I asked her how she felt about me, and the relationship between us. She said that she liked me as much as ever, and that her feelings had only grown. That she wanted things to work out between us.
Shortly after said date, she sends me a text, telling me it’s over. As the reason, she gives me the issue I already described above. And tells me that I clearly have no respect for her beliefs, or her convictions, because I sought to invalidate them. When that was never ever my intent. I just wanted to have a discussion, and never meant to attack her point of view.
So, needless to say, her text nearly gave me a heart attack. And I’ve frantically been trying to explain, but she just responded by saying her feelings for me are gone, as a result of my disrespect towards her convictions. And asked me to stop contacting her.
How do I get through to her, and win her back? What can I do to revive the feelings that were there, before this misunderstanding took place?