Friday, January 24, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day
Vaginal sex typically lasts three to seven minutes, according to a 2005 Society for Sex Therapy and Research member survey.
According to the survey, vaginal sex that lasts one to two minutes is “too short.” Vaginal sex that lasts 10 to 30 minutes is considered “too long. – Healthlline.com
What was the longest time you and your spouse had sex? What was the shortest? Which one do you prefer?
I would say “just for me sex” falls under those dynamics but most of the time I think we have sex for 15 to 20 minutes as we switch positions and work towards DW climax. We try to time our orgasms together so we ebb and flow up and down until we time it just right (80 to 90% of the time).
This conversation strikes me as hilarious. #1 because I’m usually not (nor is my wife) timing the event, (If I am, it’s just to prolong the connection time and see what happens in her since she’s already O’d.) and #2 – my wife will sometimes complain about being sore after we’ve ML’d 4-5x sometimes quite passionately and vigorously over the course of a wknd (or days) and I KNOW we’re not going 10-30 minutes of PIV so the idea of maintaining our frequency AND increasing the PIV time significantly is hilarious. I can just hear her complain about it…to me of course, because she can’t easily complain or share with anyone else (family or friends) because they’ll ask the reason and the results would be quite humorous as well!!!
After we got married two years ago, DW innocently, but mistakingly, complained ONCE to her Bible study friends about her hips being sore. They started laughing and jesting and let her have it…and she has never forgotten the embarrassment since we had been doing it at least once every day. HAHAHA…so you can see why the idea of going 10-30 minutes every time would be quite a hilarious thought.
I’ve never timed it, and never will. I’m usually done within 30 seconds of starting PIV…but continue for DW to O…which usually is within a couple minutes. In the 23 years we’ve been married, I don’t think out PIV time has ever gone beyond a couple minutes.
Shortest: three thrusts, so no more than 15 s, probably less than 10 s. Note that this was without any MS or OS prior either. She needed it to be really short, so I got highly aroused mentally and showed her what she actually does to me if I don’t hold back. She was completely flattered…and shocked.
Longest: 40-50 minutes. Early on with using the vibe and it turned into a romp chasing her O. We’ve had several sessions top 30 minutes doing this.
Average: 15-25 minutes probably. She usually needs at least 15 minutes of the combined PIV+vibe to get there. We both really enjoy the intimacy of working together for mutual pleasure in this way.
Unfortunately, I can’t read the clock from our bed without my glasses…
Longest was probably 15 minutes or so. Under a minute on quickest. I’d prefer 5-10 minutes. My wife enjoys PIV for only a couple minutes after I’ve given her a manual O. After that she starts looking bored and then gets uncomfortable or sore if we go more than 5-10 minutes. It would be much different if she could O from PIV or seemed to really enjoy it more. I strongly dislike that PIV is not great for her but we’ve worked out what works for us.
Wife also only likes PIV for a couple of minutes after she’s received oral, the only form of orgasm that works for her. It gets very uncomfortable if it takes too long. I would love to go 10 minutes, but 1-2 is about all that is available. Having said that, we enjoy what we have.
So does this mean that many minutes of thrusting or what? That always confuses me a bit.
For those that don’t time it, LOL, or can’t see the clock, we have one that projects the time on the ceiling! So, its a habit for me to see time before and after. No, I am not watching the clock during!!
Ours generally takes a couple minutes for DH to finish. But we relax in that position for awhile after.
Years ago, we found a position we loved and so we had PIV for 20 min or more. But that was just enjoying each other. No thrusting, or just enough to keep us both happy! Now that babies are grown, we are working back into extending our sessions!
We average 15-20 minutes PIV actively moving. Usually 2-4 positions. Often finish together or I wait for her then go.
Shortest can be 1-2 minutes if she needs me to be quick and I force myself to be quick.
Longest was over 45 minutes thanks(?) to a new drug a doctor had me on briefly that really made orgasm difficult, especially early on. We were exhausted and sore by that point and I gave up without an O.
Every once in a while we’ll go for 30-45 minutes because we want to and there’s one position where she can have multiples and we can both just keep going and going until she taps out lol
We have definitely had vaginal sex for over 1 hour many times.
The shortest would probably be the moment I entered her because I was so close to having an orgasm when she was performing oral sex on me and I didn’t wait to start.
I prefer vaginal sex to last at least 15 minutes, assuming we are changing positions a lot.