Friday, January 3, 2020 – Today’s Question (s) of the Day
There’s very little fairly mainstream things I/we haven’t done in our past. Being “open to them” wouldn’t be because they are new and unknown, my dilemma is around trust and emotional ability. I almost didn’t answer this question because I won’t commit to things I am not sure I can fulfill….and writing something specific would feel like a commitment to me. All I can promise, is I will continue to have a surrendered spirit for Christ to work on and heal. And as healing in me and trust in my husband develop, I will continue to take steps forward, including sexually, however that may look at that time.
I can think of a number of sexual things we are not open to. But that does not mean we are closed to them because their are new or kink. We are open to passion and our pleasure, we certainly enjoy plenty of it and are willing to experience things within that blessing of ours. If there was something my DW wanted to try I would put my heart wrapped with plenty of enthusiasm right into it.
Working on being a better “spanker” and embracing the idea of including some bondage elements. DW enjoys being spanked and likes the idea of being cuffed/tied. Now to get the house to ourselves more. I haven’t been able to spank quietly so far!
We talked about this last night before bedtime (activities). Zelda didn’t have anything, but Scott came up with one–he wants to be more open to initiating without fear of rejection or even just the fear of putting himself out there.
Initiating with confidence is tough!
Based on my wife’s and my conversation last weekend, what I feel like we can look forward to this year:
1. My wife becoming more comfortable indulging certain desires I have involving clothes.
2. My wife thinking harder about her own fantasies/kinks/unique desires. Unlike me, she doesn’t really have any in mind. However, she understands that I would love to indulge her in any that she might come up with.
3. Writing erotic stories for each other.