Friday, January 31, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of Day

    Be transparent…

    What’s the most disappointing sex you have had with your spouse and why?

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on January 31, 2020 in Senior Sex.
    Add Comment
    20 Answer(s)

      We almost never use wot positions because there have been a couple of times that she literally looked bored to tears. I mean this is supposed to be this great position for women to help themselves toward an O and she looks like she can’t find any kind of groove to get in and is nearly yawning. Seriously, that bored looking. I think the second time that happened was when I finally accepted that she’s just not going to get there thru PIV. It was, and still is on occasion a blow to my confidence, and one of the biggest disappointments in our marriage.

      California King Answered on January 31, 2020.

      I don’t want to take away from your experience of disappointment, because I know it is a real feeling and experience.  But in hopes that you don’t feel so alone, I know WOT is often touted as you said, but it is one of my least favorite positions.  It has the opposite effect on me than what it is “sold” as.

      on January 31, 2020.

      I can relate, Tim, I will close my eyes at times during lovemaking and one time my wife and I were doing WOT.  I immensely enjoy this position (because of less work for me..hee, hee).  I happened to open my eyes when we were in this position and she had her head resting on her right hand in the boring body language position.  Wow…

      on January 31, 2020.

      Thank you. I know everyone is different and there is certainly no one size fits all when it comes to positions. I think my disappointment was as much about giving up the hope for a PIV O for her. The wot position allows the man to go much longer and I was like we finally found a way I can go as long as you want and you’re not putting in much effort and getting nothing. This stinks! Anyway, we’ve moved on and I do my best to focus on all the positives instead of focusing on her lack of enjoyment/enthusiasm towards PIV.

      on January 31, 2020.

      @elevation
      That’s the exact position my wife was in! After the second time I quit suggesting it because I was so tempted to become very upset.

      on January 31, 2020.

      I can relate as well…WOT is a rare occurrence for us. DW has had some powerful orgasms in WOT, but it is VERY rare that I can convince her to change it up from reliable ol’ missionary except once every 6 months or so…

      Personally, if we haven’t tried a position regularly enough at least 3 times within a short time frame to work out all the kinks, figure out what feels good for both of us, and works the best, it’s too early to judge it!

      on January 31, 2020.
      Add Comment

        Bored sex is bad sex.

        Worst was about two months after we got married and tried without extra lube and she tore and it took 8 months to heal before we could have PIV again. That royally sucked.

        Hammock Answered on January 31, 2020.
        Add Comment

          How about the time that sex didn’t happen! A few months back we’d gone on a date and had a long (and positive) conversation about our sex life, with clear intentions to make love that night. Stuff came up with one of our kids the evening, and my wife could not get past it to be in the mood anymore. I totally understood, but was also very disappointed with the situation (not with my wife or daughter). Then it was a couple days before she was in the mood again—it was a long wait.

          On the floor Answered on January 31, 2020.
          Add Comment

            This is an easy one for me–multiple instances of having sex shortly after I viewed porn. So many things wrong with it, and I felt like I was using my DW, which I pretty much was.

            Having a porn problem meant there were no good options–it was often harder to get aroused by DW alone so I viewed porn shortly before sex, but then there was no emotional connection for me, so the sex was bad.

            -Scott

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 31, 2020.
            Add Comment

              When DW is not interested, or she tells me that I take too long, or if I want longer foreplay she tells me that I take too long,

              A long time ago, She has said that sex is a chore, and that she would be happy if it did not have to happen.

              Thankfully, things have gotten a little better

              Double bed Answered on January 31, 2020.
              Add Comment

                We tried it too soon after the birth of our daughter. It had been 4 weeks and we both were more than ready even though I had had an episiotomy and had been told to wait 6 weeks.

                It turned out that I was only mentally ready. It hurt so much that I started crying. I kept saying it was fine, but having sex with a woman in tears killed his libido pretty quickly. It was very awkward.

                The moral of the story is, listen to your doctor. (And we waited 8 weeks after our son was born even though we’d been told to wait 4 weeks. It was overkill, but neither of us was anxious to repeat that experience.)

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 31, 2020.
                Add Comment

                  The worst sex is the sex that doesn’t happen. The rain check that gets forgotten, or the response, “we can try” which really means “you’re going to have to remind me several times tonight” or “I’m going to stall going upstairs so maybe you’ll be too tired or forget”

                  The second-worst sex is the disengaged, bump-on-a-log participant.

                  California King Answered on February 1, 2020.
                  Add Comment

                    There has been a few times when I knew she was so disconnected that I could not finish. Actually lose erection while inside because I could feel  the lack of involvement and connection. Was it duty sex? Maybe. Some of it was in my own head. Those times have led to some serious discussions and some much better sex as of late.

                    Fell out of ... Answered on February 1, 2020.
                    Add Comment

                      This has happened to me as well. Normally I’m pretty quick on the trigger, but we’ve had a few just for me sessions where I couldn’t get there because of her lack of involvement. My wife is not good at faking enthusiasm. 🙂

                      California King Answered on February 1, 2020.
                      Add Comment

                        When we first started. We were born virgins on our wedding day but didn’t have sex until almost a week after because he couldn’t enter me and I didn’t know what to do. We didn’t know where to put it or what to do. When it happened, we still didn’t know what to do. He came within a minute of entering me.

                        Queen bed Answered on February 3, 2020.
                        Add Comment

                        Your Answer

                        By posting your answer, you agree to the privacy policy and terms of service.