Gonna stop using the toy
Well, it’s been a fun few weeks, but I think we are going to put the toy away for a while. It’s been really fun to use, but in addition to the guilt I feel, I also don’t want my first O to be from a toy.
We might revisit the toy again, but only when we feel that it is adding to our lovemaking and not distracting.
Thank you for all of the advise and encouragement! 🙂
We faced some of that same issue. However, if DH is using the toy on you, it’s not the toy, but your DH who helped you have the O. My DW never had an O until we started using toys. Manual stimulation does nothing for her. Why deprive her of that pleasure over some perceived guilt?
For me, it’s on par with men using ED meds. If it enhances your marriage bed and pleasure, how can that “defile” the bed? Just my two cents.
That’s very kind and thoughtful. As a man, I can appreciate that thought. I’ll admit I get great pleasure and joy from giving my wife an O, I definitely feel more masculine. On the other hand, I also enjoy seeing her masterbating to going to an O.
If it hasn’t been suggested already, try getting yourself close with the toy, and then let your husband take you over the top. My wife has use a toy for 31 of our 31 1/2 years of marriage. I have no issues with her using it. Without it, I’m sure she could get there, but it would be limited to one time. With the toy, she averages 8 times.