Has anyone else found yourself craving the touch (either sexual or non-sexual) of your spouse more the longer we go without social contact?

    I come from a bunch of huggers and can’t imagine what church will be like when we go back for the first time Sunday. We will be having an outdoor service, with distancing in effect, and have been advised to still keep apart. Previously on a normal Sunday I would hug at least 40% of the people in the congregation. We’re just like that. It’s the same with family and friends. I have noticed whenever I refrain from hugging someone (on the rare occasion I actually see someone, that is) I feel a sense of loss, and I find myself more frequently longing for DH to simply hold  me and be in contact with my body.

    Anyone else?

    Under the stars Asked on June 3, 2020 in Non-Sexual Romance .

    No. Women do.

    on June 4, 2020.
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      I feel very much like you! Yes,  I am craving more touch. Mrs. OWM sometimes feels touched out! lol!

      I sometimes wonder if hugging will disappear from our day to day lives! I hope not! What can we do to make sure it comes back?

      Under the stars Answered on June 3, 2020.

      What can we do? Ignore the idiotic call to distance from healthy people. Insist on those feeling sick to distance themselves. God himself told us this. You are to put the one who is sick outside of the camp for a period, not the other way around!

      That’s what I’m gonna do at least….

      on June 4, 2020.

      What defines “healthy people”? Best estimates place 25-80% of carriers as asymptomatic. And there’s the 5-day incubation time before people that do exhibit symptoms will show them.

      There are reasons some of these things have been put in place. You can disagree with the decisions, but trying to split it as you suggest indicates ignorance of how this virus (and many others really) is spreading.

      -Scott

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        For me, it does a lot just to see people again. I am not a huggy person, but I do like to visit one on one, with friends. Its a bit odd not to shake hands. I guess thats more our culture than hugging is. You know, like with a business person or someone else not so close to you.

        Under the stars Answered on June 3, 2020.

        Also meant to add that I don’t find myself craving extra touch from DH during this time. We rarely hug or get hugs from others, so that part isn’t much different.

        on June 3, 2020.

        Same. Contrary to what C.Joseph said, my husband would probably want more physical contact than i would.

        on June 4, 2020.

        I have a hard time imagining a family, church, or group of friends meeting without hugging. The first time I saw my Mom after this all started, I took her something she needed and when I left, we didn’t hug. It was the first time in my memory I had ever left her without hugging her! It felt so weird and wrong!

        on June 4, 2020.

        Duchess, its probably as hard for me to imagine us having to hug everybody every time. It would be almost enough to keep me away! Neither of us have hugging family, although we do live a long distance from all of them, so there are obligation hugs on the rare occasions we see them.

        on June 4, 2020.

        Definitely agree Brynna!

        on June 4, 2020.

        Wow. I wonder what makes the difference between–I guess cultures, for lack of a better word–that hug and those that don’t? Is it an ancestry thing? Population density? Economic basis? Climate? It would be interesting to know the distribution of huggers vs. non-huggers.

        on June 4, 2020.

        I came from an area of the country that is big on hugging. And much of my family hugs. I’m just not into it outside of my wife and kids. Can’t really explain it.

        -Scott

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          No. Women do.

          6 hours ago.”

           

           

          Dude.  Thanks for the blanket generalization.  That is real helpful.
          On the floor Answered on June 4, 2020.
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            I am definitely craving touch from my wife, both sexual and non-sexual. But then physical touch is one of my love languages. From others, not really.

            Queen bed Answered on June 4, 2020.
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              YES! I do crave the touch of my spouse, both sexually and non-sexually.  Regarding hugs and handshakes at church, I am sure that eventually these activities will return in some circles but may cause hard feelings by those who wish to impose a hug or handshake on those who are Are not receptive and are concerned for health reasons.

              Our church in Ohio has been meeting inside for sev

              King bed Answered on June 4, 2020.
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                YES! I do crave the touch of my spouse, both sexually and non-sexually.  During dry spells in our time together, I find myself craving her even more.

                Regarding hugs and handshakes at church, I am sure that eventually these activities will return in some circles but may cause hard feelings by those who wish to impose a hug or handshake on those who are are not receptive and are concerned for health reasons.

                King bed Answered on June 4, 2020.
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                  We are a hugging church, too, men and women alike. It will be a bit awkward at first not having some kind of physical contact like a hug or handshake. I’m guessing over time, at least for our church, that practice will resume as people become more comfortable being out with others. The question is, who will break the ice?

                  On the other hand, at first there was some intentional distancing by wife for kissing for about 5 weeks with the exception of on the cheek. With her job being around at risk people daily she didn’t want to potentially pass something on if she had been exposed. A few weeks ago that went out the proverbial window. We still continued to touch and fondle as normal though. Hard to have hands free sex even in a pandemic.

                  On the floor Answered on June 4, 2020.
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                    I have not been without social contact recently but I always crave touching her.

                    Double bed Answered on June 4, 2020.
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                      No, neither of us have found ourselves craving touch in the COVID-19 era. With friends/extended family/church members we aren’t really touch/feely. In all honesty, neither of us really understand why people are getting all out of sorts with this.

                      Please note that’s coming from a guy whose #2 love language is physical touch, and it’s in a virtual tie with #1. However, I only desire that love language from my wife and children, not others.

                      -Scott

                      Under the stars Answered on June 4, 2020.
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                        I didn’t grow up with friends or family giving hugs on a regular basis. It was reserved for funerals or grandparents that lived far away. It may have been different in other parts of the country, but when I was in HS and college, girls didn’t hug each other. Maybe if we hadn’t seen each other all summer, but nothing like men and women do now every time they see each other.

                        So, no I don’t miss it or crave it. I’m hugging my spouse the same amount as I always do,

                        On the floor Answered on June 4, 2020.
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