Has the “quarantining” helped or hindered your sexual relationship? How?
I am guessing that most of us around the world are facing some form of quarantine or social distancing guidelines.
How has it affected your marriage and marriage bed?
What are things you are thankful for? What are your struggles?
I work at home, part time, and still have things to do, although, a lot less. My wife, is not working, so she is doing odds & ends around the house, reading, and watching TV.
So…..I make sure she is amused, and aroused!
Do like us, and use the time to have some sex, that is different than your regular routine, or maybe, in a place in the house, or in the yard if possible, that is also not your norm.
Watching the boob tube is not near as pleasurable as massaging boobs!
DH feels more stressed than I do and its the uncertainty of it all that tends to get a person down. We find the added stress of having little ones home for weeks is the most stressful, simply because they are used to going to school. No longer do DH and I have our daily coffee by ourselves. We are joined by the children, which is great for the time being, because I am glad they enjoy being with us. Their lives have been upset and we are focusing more on keeping them from becoming too unglued, than we are on having more sex.
Our marriage bed has stayed about the same. We have our time alone when they go to bed and we will definitely keep that up. We do what we can during the day as well.
I have been working at home for two weeks now. With two college age kids, and a junior in high school under foot there really has not been any change to our marriage bed activities, which are still happening mainly on weekend mornings.
Not that much.
But I would say it is more enjoyable this way. Both of us are available for sex in the morning or afternoon, not just before bed at night! Which is really good because DW has more energy and isn’t as tired as she sometimes is in the evening.
Also, I get a lot more physical contact at home during the day than I did when I went to the office lol! So, that’s a huge plus too.
Yes, there are concerns and stressors too, but this has been more positive than negative for our MB.
I am not quarantining because I’m in the construction-related field as one of my jobs. It is the same drive to work and the same drive home, only with no traffic. Well, trucking is the same. Meetings are held by conference calls. Meetings at a construction site involve no contact or exchange of anything. Most of the day involves writing reports. It is safe and secure, I am uber careful. I could go on. I don’t see neighbors anymore. The family does not come over. Nothing has changed in our married bed though we have had some great talks about our sex life in these desolate times.
Well I’d hoped that being around all the time would give us some extra opportunities, but then I ended up being asked to help launch digital classes for our whole school district. I’ve been working 12-14 hour days the last 11 days straight. Today I finally got a break—worked til noon and have been off the rest of the day. Even went on a (social distancing) date—take out dinner and a drive.
I think the kids being home 24/7 also weighs heavily on DW. The stress doesn’t help our sex life. But we’ve had a few good times the last two weeks. As work settles back down maybe we’ll get busier in bed…
It has been a downer for me. While I am working from home now, my wife has insisted even no trips to the grocery store unless absolutely necessary. She, OTOH, is in a critical care position managing a couple health care facilities and so has had to go in early and stay late. By the time she is home and we have some dinner, she’s exhausted and ready for bed. It’s put me in a mood…She’s a low drive DW anyway so this is really a wet blanket.
While it has put some stress on our family due to the stay-put nature of this pandemic, no, it hasn’t changed our intimacy. Wife doesn’t like being told what to do let alone the political ways people are being manipulated to see how they can control us. She’s always been an outdoor, free-spirited, raised-on-a-farm Kentucky girl so she HATES this. I tend to be more willing to complain but go-with-the-flow on this AND I’m an indoor person anyone so it’s not too bad for me.
On top of that, as you may be aware, I challenged my wife to a 21 Day Connection Challenge, connect each day emotionally as well as have sex…so if we get into a fight before we’ve been physically intimate, it means we have to come to some resolution. With that said, our physical intimacy has actually increased this week (usually 3-5x/wk) to every day with a couple days of multiple encounters.