Has the “quarantining” helped or hindered your sexual relationship? How?

I am guessing that most of us around the world are facing some form of quarantine or social distancing guidelines. 

How has it affected your marriage and marriage bed?  

What are things you are thankful for? What are your struggles?

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    My husband has expressed a higher desire. I think the stress is making him look for an endorphin release and that in the unsettled times he is also needing the reassurance that all is well with us. I have decided to be more flexible than our scheduled days.

    Under the stars Answered on March 30, 2020.

    Nice to hear @SC. Blessed is he with an accommodating DW!

    on March 30, 2020.
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      While I’m now home 65%-70% of the time , this event has been a sexual hindrance but I’m okay with that.  And that’s because our daughter is here 100% of the time while completing her senior year of college.  So, it’s great to have her here but we’re staying up with her in the evenings binge watching Netflix or just talking.

      This too shall pass in due time.  In the meantime, I’m thankful to have my daughter home as she’ll be out on her own all too soon.

      Also, it seems my libido has declined some too.  I’ve been irregular with T injections which can’t be helping.

      Fell out of ... Answered on March 30, 2020.

      As you said, this is only for a time, and the family time and bonding has the potential to be a huge blessing, if we choose it to be!   BTW, it’s great seeing you here!

      on March 30, 2020.
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        I’d say its hindered it a bit. I’ve only been home the last couple of days but I’ve got plenty of farm work and chores around the house and property to keep me busy. Have also taken the boys turkey hunting and fishing. So some great things are happening, just not intimate time for us.  Let’s face it, caring for kids is a libido killer. At least when I was at work I was having great daydreams of us having quality time together. This kind of kept our sex life fueled.

        I wouldn’t trade our life for anything. However, based on my experience I must admit that if I was giving advice to a young couple I’d tell them not to have more than two kids if they really want to maintain a robust sex life. Unless maybe they were both HD spontaneous types.

        California King Answered on March 31, 2020.

        ”  Let’s face it, caring for kids is a libido killer. “…. and now we see a glimpse of why so many wives struggle LOL 😆

        on March 31, 2020.

        No doubt! Even my level of desire has taken a hit while being home. 🙂 Hence my somewhat selfish statement about not having too many kids.

        on March 31, 2020.

        It’s really about a choice and a perspective.  One can have many kids and still choose to make their sex lives a priority. Yep, it might be a little more work and you have more hurdles to jump, but it doesn’t have to keep people from running the good race. 🙂

        on April 2, 2020.
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          Increased worry and stress is a general downer to an already struggling at times sex life. Stress for DW equals even less drive and less mindfulness. Stress on me equals more need for outlet and  connection that is less available than before. That increases temptation and spiraling problems for me.

          And DD is temporarily/semi-permanently reinvaded our recently emptied nest – that puts a damper on things further…

          ….so not too good…

          On the floor Answered on April 2, 2020.
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            My wife and I are both in essential industries – working different shifts at the same grocery store.

            However, I was laid off from my second job – delivery driver for a Chinese restaurant.

            So, there’s a larger window when we’re both home at the same time.

            Sadly, it hasn’t changed the frequency of ML.

            Queen bed Answered on April 4, 2020.
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              @NWNL, I get her comment about not expecting a certain type of sex. That’s where me learning myself, and specifically my enneagram type, has been helpful. I have understanding of why it “appears” I have gone backwards from stepping back into the daring, to retreating back into the known and comfortable. That understanding keeps me from overthinking it, or despairing over it.

              Under the stars Answered on April 13, 2020.

              I should also add that DW wen from 60-0 in the past couple wks. She quit her main p/time job to focus on schooling for a career. Then her other gig got removed for a period of time while this thing blows over (a little stressful on her to want to “contribute” to our household income), then her stressful ,”must-pass-with-an-‘A'” class (a guy with an 89.5% didn’t get in last year because the competition was better) got suspended because they can’t do the lab till Summer…then the college said nothing on-campus till Fall when her program was supposed to start and this class is a PREREQUISITE so she may need to wait for another 1.5 yrs. Then her girls went to the their dads for two days, which ended up being two wks, good for us relationally, BUT it ONLY HAPPENED because girls complained to him about unreasonable mom & their evil step-dad. Why else would he take the girls for two wks when he’s seriously NEVER had that many overnights in 5 yrs since their separation and divorce?

              on April 13, 2020.
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                well, the foster babies were sick to start, then me (big 2 wk cough only) I still cough a little. Then, after an additional week of no sex (where I am blamed for being mean and while she gives me lessons and pointers on how to speak correctly with the kids) then she gets sick and this right now is day 10 for her sickness. Then autistic son (adult) gets sick with cough. 3 special needs kids have to be watched constantly.

                After all this, it will have been 3 weeks no sex this weekend coming up. She has progesterone and estrogen she was using for sex to not hurt but I assume she has not been using them so she will start all over…or announce she has to start over on those creams the night she is willing for sex. But really, I’ll be blamed for being a jerk regardless of her forgetfulness and she will be vindicated again and she will be fine with no sex and this entire quarantine time will have been a waste…I predict.

                King bed Answered on March 31, 2020.
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                  No real change for us so far. Wife being sick this week is much more limiting. When healthy though it was the same 2-3/week as always so far.

                  California King Answered on April 2, 2020.
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