Has the “quarantining” helped or hindered your sexual relationship? How?
I am guessing that most of us around the world are facing some form of quarantine or social distancing guidelines.
How has it affected your marriage and marriage bed?
What are things you are thankful for? What are your struggles?
At this point, we have been more hindered. This has actually put more stress and work on my husband, so he has been putting in a lot more hours and even pulling some late nighters or all nighters at the office.
We did have a talk this morning, and I shared how it has set me back a little sexually. Because of all the uncertainty around us, it makes me need the security of the tried and true comforting encounters, rather than the more explorative and adventurous types.
As an introvert, I actually appreciate the cancellation of things and getting to stay home 🙂 Of course I live with “a small gathering” so I get plenty of interaction with others…so much so, I choose to self-quarantine in my bedroom at times. 😆
I am not quarantining because I’m in the construction-related field as one of my jobs. It is the same drive to work and the same drive home, only with no traffic. Well, trucking is the same. Meetings are held by conference calls. Meetings at a construction site involve no contact or exchange of anything. Most of the day involves writing reports. It is safe and secure, I am uber careful. I could go on. I don’t see neighbors anymore. The family does not come over. Nothing has changed in our married bed though we have had some great talks about our sex life in these desolate times.
Not really different. I was still working normally until a couple days ago, then I worked from home. I actually went into work yesterday when an essential person was out ill.
Zelda is a homeschooling mom. The way it works out, the only differences for us come on Sundays and Mondays.
However, I’ll likely be working from home all week next week. I’m really hoping to have some lunch/afternoon delight during my lunch breaks a couple days. We both love the afternoon and its natural lighting, but weekends just don’t work out for us often.
Well I’d hoped that being around all the time would give us some extra opportunities, but then I ended up being asked to help launch digital classes for our whole school district. I’ve been working 12-14 hour days the last 11 days straight. Today I finally got a break—worked til noon and have been off the rest of the day. Even went on a (social distancing) date—take out dinner and a drive.
I think the kids being home 24/7 also weighs heavily on DW. The stress doesn’t help our sex life. But we’ve had a few good times the last two weeks. As work settles back down maybe we’ll get busier in bed…
It has been a downer for me. While I am working from home now, my wife has insisted even no trips to the grocery store unless absolutely necessary. She, OTOH, is in a critical care position managing a couple health care facilities and so has had to go in early and stay late. By the time she is home and we have some dinner, she’s exhausted and ready for bed. It’s put me in a mood…She’s a low drive DW anyway so this is really a wet blanket.
Not that much.
But I would say it is more enjoyable this way. Both of us are available for sex in the morning or afternoon, not just before bed at night! Which is really good because DW has more energy and isn’t as tired as she sometimes is in the evening.
Also, I get a lot more physical contact at home during the day than I did when I went to the office lol! So, that’s a huge plus too.
Yes, there are concerns and stressors too, but this has been more positive than negative for our MB.
While it has put some stress on our family due to the stay-put nature of this pandemic, no, it hasn’t changed our intimacy. Wife doesn’t like being told what to do let alone the political ways people are being manipulated to see how they can control us. She’s always been an outdoor, free-spirited, raised-on-a-farm Kentucky girl so she HATES this. I tend to be more willing to complain but go-with-the-flow on this AND I’m an indoor person anyone so it’s not too bad for me.
On top of that, as you may be aware, I challenged my wife to a 21 Day Connection Challenge, connect each day emotionally as well as have sex…so if we get into a fight before we’ve been physically intimate, it means we have to come to some resolution. With that said, our physical intimacy has actually increased this week (usually 3-5x/wk) to every day with a couple days of multiple encounters.
I work at home, part time, and still have things to do, although, a lot less. My wife, is not working, so she is doing odds & ends around the house, reading, and watching TV.
So…..I make sure she is amused, and aroused!
Do like us, and use the time to have some sex, that is different than your regular routine, or maybe, in a place in the house, or in the yard if possible, that is also not your norm.
Watching the boob tube is not near as pleasurable as massaging boobs!