Have you ever had angry sex?

    I saw a movie or TV show a while back where a man and a woman were arguing with each other and seemed angry.  Suddenly, they started kissing.  Sexual activity after that was implied.

    If my wife is angry, she doesn’t want to have sex.  I calm down pretty fast, usually, but she can simmer a while if she gets angry.  Even if she isn’t outright angry after that, she doesn’t feel like having sex.

    Once or twice many years ago we did have sex and I found out mid act that she was angry, just having sex with me because I’d been pursuing her because it had been a while.  If she’s in a bad mood, that can make her angry.  But that’s a rare thing.  On an emotional level, that wasn’t really an enjoyable experience.  It wasn’t like her mood or anger translated into more sexual passion.

    Are there any couples out there that have angry sex and find it passionate, or is this just a TV and Hollywood thing?

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      No, we have never done that. It seems counter intuitive to me.

      Under the stars Answered on December 2, 2019.
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        We did once and it was awkward and not good

        On the floor Answered on November 30, 2019.
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          I can’t say that we have ever been mid-fight and moved to making out or sex.   It seems more like a Hollywood thing, but I would guess that two people who are highly passionate and emotional in everyday life,  might be able to pull this off as well.

          Under the stars Answered on November 30, 2019.
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            Yeah …… not like Hollywood.

            In years gone by I have been able to read when my wife was angry – didn’t have to be with me – and (with sex) manage to get her to work out that anger.

            All sex is great, so …… yeah ……. enjoyable.

            Queen bed Answered on December 1, 2019.
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              not ever… and probably never. When she’s angry, she’s angry…sex is completely off the table

              On the floor Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                Don’t think we ever have or even come close.

                Hammock Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                  It has not happened the Hollywood way. Closest thing to that we have had happen would be if I were angry and deep down knew I was being a bit unreasonable, he is sometimes inspired to kind of shock me out of my temper by surprising me with a sexual advance, or at least a passionate kiss. It often works. I don’t recall if one of these experiences ever led to actual sex.

                  Hollywood doesn’t get a whole lot right when it comes to sex; I guess their theory is quantity over quality?

                  Under the stars Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                    I’m trying to decide if we have or not.  One of the things my wife has told me for years is when she’s angry a hug or loving touch will help defuse it.  (Sometimes she now regrets telling me that because she’s like “don’t try to trick me with a hug right now”.  hahaha).  We do have makeup sex quite often, I’m wondering if any of those times there is leftover anger or lingering heightened emotions?

                    Queen bed Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                      Never had “angry” sex but we have had makeup sex.

                      Hollywood rarely portrays reality in relationships. This question reminds me of a funny Studio C (clean comedy group) sketch that made fun of a similar Hollywood trope.


                      Fell out of ... Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                        Not sure if we have had a very sex per say. I know when we are arguing if I am bad he will flirt with me, or grab my butt and say oh nice and sexy, or he will brush by. He knows there isn’t much persuading he needs to do to get me to turn around my whole attitude. I’m not sure if we have had sex while we were a very but probably had a close to more make up sex. Which is always nice.

                        Double bed Answered on December 7, 2019.
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