Have you ever taken a vacation with the sole purpose of having sex?
This is building off of a previous question. Besides your honeymoon, have you ever planned a getaway with your spouse for the sole purpose of intimate sexual connection? A sexcation or hornymoon? Was it successful? What factors contributed to its success or difficulties?
Kind of. We went on a 3 day getaway two years ago (the first time we had been away without kids overnight in many many years) thanks to the generosity of some members of our church family who watched our kids for us. The main difficulty for us has always been childcare. Once that piece was taken care of the rest was pretty easy to plan. We were driving so we were able to bring all of our favorite toys, lubes, massage oil etc. We did things other than just have sex (walking on the beach, going out to dinner, riding bikes etc.) but we had sex multiple times a day every day and it was wonderful. It was great to be able to have sex whenever we wanted, the middle of the day has always been the best time for me because I’m not exhausted like I am at the end of the night. That trip still holds the record for the most orgasms I had in one session.
We borrowed a relatives boat and went to a lodge on a lake. The sole purpose one day was to see how many different times we could have sex. We did it 4 different times in Lodge room, once on the boat in middle of lake, once on vacant beach on one side of the lake, and once in the woods on a walking path. I thought it would be awesome and it was but I never realized that much pounding can cause you to be sore! I was sore in my core, my legs and my member. DW was truly worn out too! It was memorable but sometimes Quality is better than Quantity!
We have made three trips where the primary purpose was enjoying plentiful sex. Each was successful and memorable to this day! It was just the two of us. We had no pressures of a tour group or a schedule or driving so and so far each day. Just relaxing and filling our days with pleasure and Os. 😀
Yep, I planned it, we did it. On one occasion we ventured off to a mountain cabin in the woods as our chateau. Another journey took us to a beach home overlooking the Pacific ocean. Took all the toys, furniture, lotions and put the whole trove right on top of the dresser. We didn’t use them all but we made a run at it. Those were great times and moments of memories that were deliberately and wonderfully made.
We try to take trips each year or more without any kids to reconnect as husband and wife. The sex is amazing once each remembers what it’s like to be together without the kids bringing you back to reality.
Since we’rere alone sex can and does happen whenever we want as long as there is enough privacy we won’t get arrested. So skinny dipping, outdoor sex, or with the windows open becomes possible.
Well, you can’t have sex 24/7, so our getaways aren’t soley sex-based. However, we do overnighters at hotels at least 3 times a years to get away from the kids and have alone time. We know sex will happen for sure, put the purpose is to connect in all other ways as well. They are very successful, allowing us to reconnect several times a year.
I keep trying to, with little success. Last September I did a really thorough job planning a fabulous week-long 25th anniversary 2nd honeymoon to Charleston, SC. A hurricane attacked Charleston the very week we were to go. We did a replacement trip somewhere else in February for just 3 days–all we could spare–and I ended up with a nasty migraine and DH was just so exhausted from our life leading up to the getaway that we ended up having very little sex that weekend.
One of the biggest barriers to romantic getaways for us is that DH hates to travel. I mean he REALLY hates to travel. He’s comfortable going only so far that he can get home in the same day. He forces himself to go when I insist, and I have insisted often enough over the years, but he is never fully relaxed the whole time we are gone and it just infects the mood. He never feels all that frisky when he is that tense and it just doesn’t end up being the decadent and sensual experience I wish for.