Have You Noticed The Small Wins?
For me, I can focus on the negative of my DW that I can easily forget how God is working in small ways and providing small wins.
I have noticed God allowing my DW to:
- ask for what she wants (e.g. I need you to hold me). She has never done this before and now I hold her in the bed a lot now.
- she is snuggling more with me.
- she is allowing me to do breast play again (her breasts were off-limits due to the sensitivity…now she surrenders them more to me).
What are small wins that you have noticed in your spouse that shows that God is working in your marriage and marriage bed?
Great question and reminder to count the ways our spouses bless us. A couple of things come to mind….. 1) She’s sleeping nude now, awesome to feel that soft warm skin against me. 2) She’s started complimenting my penis and how it makes her.
I need to do better at this, and because you shared, it is making me more aware, and helping me to change my perspective. I find it a real struggle to consider something a “win”, when the steps forward are after such a slide backwards that the “wins” are still so far behind where we once were.
Small Wins Update:
Last Saturday I got caught up playing video games and my wife was waiting for me to make love. She was very tired and by the time I went into the bedroom, she was like goo (way too tired for sex). I was frustrated (totally my fault and I owned it). I went to bed listening to a mediation about releasing your frustration.
The next evening I was getting ready to go to bed when my wife came up to me and said “Do you want to have a date?” This was both surprising and welcomed. I, of course, said ‘Yes’ and I thanked her on Monday for her willingness to make love even on a day we normally don’t.