Hello and Thank You
Hello Group! I just wanted to say HI and say thanks for even having such a place. I am a 54 year old Momma, married coming on 33 years. I could probably write about 10 pages of an introduction, but I will try to keep it short-ish.
Much of my marriage has been spent in putting off my husband’s desires for very frequent sex. While pre-marriage it was all about hot sex and trying to curb it because we are both believers, after marriage, things went down hill completely! And I know it is MY fault completely.
Now, I want to change things. I only hope and pray that it’s not too late. My dear dear husband deserves more! I am not exactly sure where to start. I literally have NO libido, so this might be hard. Part of me would be perfectly happy to never have sex again….but I know that’s wrong for our marriage.
Can someone point me in a direction to find posts on how to begin this turn-around?
Welcome! I can feel the ache with you and anticipation for you!
A good resource and a place to start is at The Forgiven Wife. Her whole blog is aimed towards wives like you. That was what God used in my own conviction and change.
Also, if you have no libido, it might be good to consider seeing a bhrt doctor. Trust me, having balanced hormones will help living out your heart easier.
The good thing about here, is it is a place you can get others perspectives, husbands and wives. Reading and talking about the marriage bed is a good way at keeping sex and your desire for change at the forefront of your mind, which we wives need 🙂 These forums (well, the old TMB forums), and the people from them, were a HUGE part in my transformation, it helped in the renewing of my mind.
Welcome! And good for you for coming to this place of wanting to change. Prayers for your journey, that you find just the right help that speaks to you most effectively and that your DH would be supportive and tender with you as you do this new thing. Blessings!