Hello, returning , and realized I never introduced myself
I lurked for a couple of years before ever commenting on TMB. I actually introduced myself the very last day (perhaps the very final post) on the old TMB website. I actually just combed this section thinking I’d find my intro. Now I feel awkward that I posted and responded in the past without ever having given a proper introduction.
My bride and I have been married just under 10 years now. I have the HD and the first few years of our marriage were intensely difficult for me as an affectionate man with a love language of touch. We went a few consecutive years with having sex only 1x every 6-8 weeks. Therefore, when I first joined TMB, I often came around during times of prolonged dry spells.
I strive to honor my bride in all instances. I will say that I taken seriously the work of pressing on through rejection and have seen some growth in both me and my wife over the last 2 years. After years of feeling rejected, I now do my best to verbalize and make my expectations known.
God’s grace is for us all, and it’s effects and work to heal can be instant, though it may take some of us a lifetime to understand its impact and reach into all areas of life. Marriage is the breeding ground and hot bed in which we get to see the daily practice of grace take shape (puns intended). I feel blessed to be here.
I am glad you are back again! I just saw an old post come up and saw your name, and had wondered what had happened to you. Now I know, and what a blessing to get an answer in such a timely manner!
Also, don’t feel bad about the whole lack of introduction thing…. there are a few regular posters who never did get around to it. 😀
You said you are HD but to go 6 weeks or longer means you have a high toleration to sex-starvation. To me, you have a high(er) drive than hers. What reason would she have to limit you? Health, kids, job, anger, past trauma or just Low drive? Which means she just doesn’t care for sex. No interest.
I am probably one of those SC is referring to not posting an intro. I did on the old board but that intro was 15-16 yrs ago under a different name…with a different wife…in a definitely different life and marriage. God’s plan for the family to be a microcosm of the Gospel and an incubator of His Grace, forgiveness and developmental place of holiness is so true!
Welcome! It sounds as though your moniker is well chosen. We have heard many stories of healing and sexual awakening; I pray that your wife will soon be one of them and that you both will both want and choose frequent and passionate lovemaking.