Hey ladiiiiieeees! What is THE book? Fellas can chime in too.
Not talking about the Bible. We love the Bible.
I’m talking about the best Christian book on female sexuality and how to ditch the “good girls don’t” attitude and discover all the benefits God have women in sex.
The wife finally agreed to see a marriage/sex therapist, but then found out how expensive they were. But she graciously said “how bout we read a book together?” What a wonderful idea. If I’d only thought about it YEARS ago (which I did several times. ANYWAY).
ive heard “Intended for Pleasure” thrown around the Christian podcast circles as the go-to, but a sex therapist I know says it recommends against OS. Not into that.
There’s the “Good Girls Guide to Great Sex (And You Thiught the Bad Girls Had All The Fun)” seems promising.
The sex therapist says to check out Cliff and Joyce Penner’s books. I found “Enjoy!” which seems to be all for the ladies, and it’s published by Focus on the Family which my wife would welcome more than some unknown outfit.
So does anyone have experience with the above titles or is there another woman focused sex book you’d recommend?
The version of Intended for Pleasure I read early in our marriage basically was shaming about the wife having an orgasm from any way but PIV. Restored for Pleasure is a much better book. Come as you are was great! But as said before, secular and one of the composite couples is a lesbian couple.
Celebration of Sex I would recommend for reading together.
My wife read Sheet Music years ago and it led to the first big breakthrough in our sex life—adding a vibrator and finally getting her to an O. She read “Good Girls Guide to Great Sex” last summer, and it opened the door for a lot of conversation between us. She felt like she was past the point of needing the encouragement of that book, but thought it was good for women who struggled with being “sex positive.”
I’m glad that your DW is open to something, even if therapy isn’t it. Something else to consider is listening to a marriage/sex podcast together. Sexy Marriage Radio by Dr. Cory Allan is great—almost like a sex/marriage counseling session but free 😉
OK. Here you go. I counted at least 12 books at home and I know there are a few more in the basement. I think the biggest think you can do is open the lines of communication. What about listening to a podcast? One very specific to sex as well as the marriage relationship is SEXY MARRIAGE RADIO with Dr. Corey Allen and his wife. I also recommend THE NAKED MARRIAGE PODCAST with Dave & Ashley Willis, which actually is more about relationships that the sex which the title makes you think. They have a couple books on sex and intimacy one is called THE NAKED MARRIAGE.
I’m still gonna recommend A CELEBRATION OF SEX (a guide to enjoying God’s gift of sexual intimacy) by Rosenau. There is a LOT of info, questions, activities, etc. It is a large book with nearly 400 pgs of info, illustrations, etc. It really is a complete guide.
RESTORING THE PLEASURE by the Penners is also a good how to guide/how to overcome guide.
THE FIVE SEX NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN (discover the secrets to great sex in a Godly marriage) by Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg.
PASSION PURSUIT (what kind of love are you making) by Dillow and Dr. Slattery is actually a Bible study/workbook and suggestions/challenges for women to think about and consider.
LOVEMAKING – Dr Dan & Linda Wilson. It does mention oral sex in a small positive note in a chapter on exploration, end of each chapter includes ideas/activities/exercises
Most of these will mention oral sex positively a little or actually give a lot of info regarding oral sex.
There are more but these are some good ones to start with and start to have conversations.
I firmly believe that it is more about communication and relationship than technique. The greatest sex organ is between the ears so that honesty breeds intimacy and intimacy breeds trust and those things lead to great sex!
I hear recommended time and time again “Come as You Are” by Emily Nagoski. It is secular, and I hear there are a few things in it that most Christians will disagree with, but otherwise is apparently spectacular. We have never read it, but there are at least two women on TMB (or that were on TMB) that highly recommend it.
One thing I don’t know is how much the book lends itself to being read as a couple (as opposed to being read by her herself).
I’ll have to look at home as I’m at the office now. Penners have an old book called RESTORING THE PLEASURE that has a process, questions and exercises to do. The other one I still have here at the office is CELEBRATION OF SEX by Rosineau…and SHEET MUSIC by Kevin Lehman has been around as well. I have plenty of books at home I can look at. Some are geared for couples and others are for specifically women so it’ll need to be this afternoon or late tonight or tmw with our activities.
A study of the book of SONG OF SOLOMON by Tommy Nelson might also be something to do together as well.
Dear wife and I have a plethora of books because of ministry long before we married and because she’d never really done anything like that before. When we got married she specifically wanted a book we could discuss to set up sexpectations before we wed 3 yrs ago. OK…really? Twist my arm to buy her a book about sex. Fine. I “reluctantly” agreed…NOT! HAHAHA! Then I continued to buy books for her and agreed. A friend of hers came over to borrow some blending family books and DW invited her back to the bedroom bookshelf and she commented, “Man, you guys have a lot of books on sex!” Yep, we do…’cause perfect practice makes perfect! 😀
Sitting currently on my nightstand, Sheet Music and Intimate Issues. Both I think would be a great read as a couple. Come As You Are is probably the best book I have ever read about sex but it is not really for couples, although may spark some conversations. Speaking of, I need to read it again.
It’s been 27 years since I was doing the pre-marital reading so my memory of it is sketchy. I’m pretty sure I read Intended for Pleasure, and I know I read Love Life for Every Married Couple. What I especially remember about Love Life is the emphasis on the commitment and the ability of one person (with God’s miraculous help) to save the marriage if necessary. But then that would have stuck with me because I was coming from a FOO that included divorce and was deeply invested in preventing it’s repetition in my own marriage.