Holding your breath when approaching orgasm
It seems I’ve gotten into the habit of holding my breath as orgasm approaches, sometimes it seems to aid in getting closer to orgasm. My wife has mentioned it to me a few times, saying “breath”. I’m not sure if this is a habit I’ve acquired over the years or is there is actually any ‘science’ to it. It’s kind of scary because of stories of celebrities that are found dead and death is attributed to ‘erotic asphyxiation’. I don’t have any intention or desire to pursue it, but am curious if any others (male or female) have experienced something similar.
As orgasm approaches during manual sex, my wife will hold her breath, straighten her legs and curl her toes. All that tension is released when orgasm arrives and a lot of heavy breathing ensues.
No breath holding with me. My heavy breathing ramps up to a crescendo at orgasm and then ramps back down.
What you’re describing is not erotic asphyxiation. That’s a practice of intentionally causing yourself to come as close to unconsciousness as possible in order to heighten orgasm. It’s usually done when a person is masturbating, often involving a noose or something they are trying to cut off their oxygen with. They go too far and can’t come back out of the unconscious state to save themselves, and they end up dying.
Just holding your breath while orgasm approaches is not going to result in that happening. The body has a natural defense mechanism that would prevent you from dying, even if you were to hold it long enough to go unconscious. So, don’t worry, and enjoy the orgasms!
Actually, I find that not holding my breath is better for me. My husband once said “If you chase a butterfly, it’s always just out of reach. But if you hold still it will find you!” So when I’m about to orgasm, I try to just breathe slowly and deliberately and take in all that happens when my body responds to the stimulation it’s getting. For me, I seem to feel my orgasm(s) more that way! And I’m pretty sure the actually last longer.
As an athlete the process of learning to breath is essential through some of the more strenuous aspects of performance. I never thought about breathing through the sexual process but it does make sense that if you are to get the most out endurance and performance that breathing deep through the processes would be vital.