How do you celebrate your anniversary?

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    Our anniversary is this week (26 years!) and we are doing probably the least we ever have to celebrate. (Not by choice; sometimes there are just frustrating circumstances, not least of which is that I still have not been released for sexual activity. God is helping me with my attitude about that.) But it got me thinking about how many people we have known over the years who seem to pay very little attention to their anniversary (not that they would have told us about their sexual plans) and so I wonder:

    • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary?
    • Why or why not?
    • Do you take a trip each year?
    • Do you go out to eat?
    • Do you exchange gifts?
    • Do you always have sex?
    • Do you have “special” sex?
    • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress?
    • Do you have some tradition unique to you?
    • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way?
    • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary?
    • Have you ever renewed your vows?
    • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to?
    • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget?
    • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary?
    On the floor Asked on September 17, 2019 in Non-Sexual Romance .
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      Here’s my answers regarding our nearly 50 years of marriage.

      Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary?    100%

      Why or why not?  It’s celebrating our sacred covenant of marriage

      Do you take a trip each year?  We did for our 15th, 25th, 40th and soon our 50th

      Do you go out to eat?   100%

      Do you exchange gifts?  100% me to her

      Do you always have sex?   Early years – 100%  Last 10 years – 75%

      Do you have “special” sex?   Sex is always special for us!

      Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress?  Photos, yes. Just a few times.

      Do you have some tradition unique to you?  We always exchange cards, jewelry for her – every year, and flowers, of course.

      Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way?  Blessed!!

      Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary?  We are always lovey-dovey!

      Have you ever renewed your vows?  No, nor will we do so. We believe that our vows and covenant are forever. 

      Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to?  Not really.

      Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget? Our kids know the date, and are privately thankful.

      What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary.  It surprises me that some men are forgetful about the date and year of their anniversary. I think about and plan for our anniversary in the months before the date, every year.

      Fell out of ... Answered on September 18, 2019.

      You Oldbears are an inspiration to us all! I love your answer about the vow renewal, and that you are so aware of and planning for your anniversary when some men are so laissez-faire about it.

      Congratulations and Happy 50th Anniversary in advance!

      on September 18, 2019.
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        I believe we have almost always had sex on our anniversary. We have done special trips for our 1st, 20th, and 25th. For other anniversaries we typically go out and spend the day together, doing random things and always a nice meal. We have had kids with us when they were younger. We used to exchange gifts, we haven’t for several years, rather we use money to share experiences.

        Under the stars Answered on September 17, 2019.
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          Wow Duchess! That’s an amazing list of questions!

          • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary? Usually.
          • Why or why not? Well, each year is both special and an accomplishment!
          • Do you take a trip each year? No. But over the past 10 years we have taken several
          • Do you go out to eat? Yes, usually on the day or the weekend near the day
          • Do you exchange gifts? Not usually. We spend money on doing something together.
          • Do you always have sex? Usually
          • Do you have “special” sex? sometimes
          • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress? Rarely
          • Do you have some tradition unique to you? Probably not
          • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way? I’m pleased and thankful to God and DW.
          • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary? Yup! And it always reminds me of our wedding and wedding night.
          • Have you ever renewed your vows? no.
          • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to? Maybe go on a cruise
          • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget? Most don’t remember. Except on special years.
          • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary? It would be fun to celebrate with other who share the same day. Or those who got married the same year!

           

          Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 17, 2019.

          We have friends who got married on our anniversary, then their son was born on our son’s (the one we lost) birthday! (He was in some danger at first, so we prayed extra fervently for him until the day we had to “return” our son had passed!

          That sounds like a downer story, but the point was the coincidence of days. Oh! And they have a daughter our daughter’s age! They go to school together!

          on September 18, 2019.
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            Congratulations Duchess! As our kids get older it gets easier to break away for a few days, but it wasn’t always this way. Most of them were very low key and business as usual in our busy household. We don’t have close family nearby so it’s generally just us who celebrate. Even some of our kids forgot this year! We always had sex on our anniversary except for this year but we tried. DW couldn’t stay awake. Our anniversary mini holidays don’t always end up on the actual day due to busy schedules. We went away a week later and took a short trek south to get some nicer spring weather and enjoy the fresh greenery. It is amazing to get away from the kids on these rare occasions and realize that we really can connect and enjoy each other.

            Hammock Answered on September 17, 2019.

            Thank you!

            on September 18, 2019.
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              • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary? I always try!
              • Why or why not? I am extremely sentimental and also feel like celebrating our relationship at a milestone is like watering a plant–it gives a living thing the energy it needs to live and grow.
              • Do you take a trip each year? In the early years of our marriage we tried to schedule our vacation over that week every year. We had access to my parents’ time share unit for just an exchange fee, so we had great accommodations for a good price. DH had either not yet shared the full extent of his travel phobia or it has naturally worsened over the years; not sure which.
              • Do you go out to eat? almost always, either on the day or near it
              • Do you exchange gifts? sometimes
              • Do you always have sex? until this year 🙁
              • Do you have “special” sex? sometimes
              • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress? I used to put on my dress every now and then; now it no longer fits. We have looked at photos and watched the video, though often nowhere near the anniversary.
              • Do you have some tradition unique to you? Since it’s near, we always also celebrate “Talk Like a Pirate Day” (19th); I take special care to dress for him, no matter what we are doing (this means either soft sweater or something low-cut; he’s a boob man)
              • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way? blessed, thankful, proud, energized to succeed afresh, and vindicated (because I have never been shy of sharing what I have learned–through a lot of research pre-marriage–about good marriages and in the early years I got a lot of, “Oh you’ll sing a different tune after you’ve been married a while.” Now people tell us they look to us as an example. (But that makes me feel honored and careful!)
              • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary? Absolutely! It’s like a reset button. If we have let our connection weaken, we automatically tighten it again.
              • Have you ever renewed your vows? We haven’t felt the need, still feeling so strongly about the first ones, but we’ve talked about who we would have in our wedding party if we were getting married now–it would be almost completely different!!
              • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to? Spend the entire day in bed, take a cruise
              • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget? His parents remember without fail and always give us a card and either money or a special gift. It’s humbling since I too often forget their special dates! Of the rest of our people, some do, some don’t. Certain people at church ALWAYS put a card in our church mailbox.
              • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary? I am a pack rat and saved leftover decorations from the reception. I always intended to have a party on a milestone like the 25th…which was last year…and they are still in a box…in storage. I still have my bouquet and the cake topper I made because I didn’t like any of the ones I looked at and always plan to put it on the dining room table all month…and the table is almost always too piled up to do so. I always have such great plans… 😀
              On the floor Answered on September 18, 2019.
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                • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary? I try to!
                  Why or why not? Life is short and I’m all about  enjoying it.
                  Do you take a trip each year? Not every year, but we have taken many trips that week.
                  Do you go out to eat? Yes, every year.
                  Do you exchange gifts? We tried to do the traditional  gifts (1st year paper, etc.) but it became too difficult.
                  Do you always have sex? Absolutely
                  Do you have “special” sex? Sometimes
                  Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress? I put on the dress for our 30th just because I could
                  Do you have some tradition unique to you? We have engraved champagne glasses that we use to toast each other every year
                  Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way? Old? Lol
                  Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary? Yes
                  Have you ever renewed your vows? No
                  Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to? A Golden Anniversary  and beyond is the goal
                  Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget? My maid of honor and I always exchange cards for each other’s  anniversaries. Our kids text us 😊
                  What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary? Just congratulate you on yours!
                Hammock Answered on September 18, 2019.

                Thank you! I love that you toast each other with your glasses!

                on September 18, 2019.
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                  Congratulations!

                  • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary? Yes
                  • Why or why not? We make it special to celebrate our marriage
                  • Do you take a trip each year?  Minimally We send the kids to Grandmas and we go to a upscale hotel.
                  • Do you go out to eat? yes
                  • Do you exchange gifts? no
                  • Do you always have sex? usually, except if it is that time of month, or when she was pregnant (uncomfortable)
                  • Do you have “special” sex? we might do something alittle more wild.
                  • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress? no
                  • Do you have some tradition unique to you? no
                  • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way? no
                  • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary? no
                  • Have you ever renewed your vows? no
                  • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to?
                  • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget? Yes they congratulate us, but no parties (yet)
                  • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary? We are coming up on our 10th. so we’ll do something special.
                  Double bed Answered on September 18, 2019.

                  Thanks!

                  on September 18, 2019.
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                    Sure, I’ll bite!! 🙂

                    • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary?  Yes, we try to, although many times over the years due to ministry commitments, we have had to tone it back.
                    • Why or why not? We like to make the “special” days special!!
                    • Do you take a trip each year?  Not usually,.  Again, too busy with ministry stuff.
                    • Do you go out to eat?  This we always try to do! 🙂
                    • Do you exchange gifts?  Yeah, in some way.  We both like to get creative (although she says I’m better at the creativity thing than she is!)
                    • Do you always have sex? Well, yeah, of course, although not always on the “day” itself.  Sometimes it’s a day or two earlier or later.
                    • Do you have “special” sex?  Sometimes.
                    • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress?  Nope, not really.  I think we looked at the pictures once years ago.  Our video guy forgot he was supposed to be videotaping, so by the time he ran home and got his camera and got back to the church, all he got was the kiss at the end, and that was shaky because he was out of breath and couldn’t hold the camera steady! LOL
                    • Do you have some tradition unique to you?  Not that I know of.
                    • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way?  Older, mostly! LOL
                    • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary?  Yeah probably.  But we try to keep the romance alive year round anyway!
                    • Have you ever renewed your vows? Yes, once.
                    • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to?  I really wanted to do a cruise on our 25th, but finances and time wouldn’t allow for it.  Going on 28 years now, so I may shoot for 30 to do that.
                    • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget?  No, it’s usually just between us, which is fine.
                    • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary?  Just that I’m thankful that I have a beautiful DW to share it with!! 🙂
                    Hammock Answered on September 18, 2019.
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                      We don’t make a big deal, but always celebrate somehow.

                      Why? Because we love each other and are happy to be married!

                      Last anniversary was the first anniversary trip we’ve ever taken. It was amazing for the first time in 19 years, to be under the roof, alone with each other, with no children around, for a couple whole nights!

                      We usually eat out, on or around the anniversary date.

                      We always exhange cards, sometimes gifts, or buy a gift that we can share.

                      We usually have sex, not any more special than usual.

                      I occasionally put on my wedding dress. (Its too large, tho.)

                      Til a couple years ago, our tradition was to eat at same restaurant chain, where we had our first meal after our wedding. The restuarant is now closed, at least in our area.

                      We feel older, with each milestone. (It used to be people our age were old, married people.)

                      We might be a little more smoochy and lovey.

                      No great plans of celebrating, that we haven’t done. Neither of us are that type.

                      Friends and family send texts. I always feel guilty, as I have don’t remember when their anniversaries are and never congratulate them

                      We had a short engagement and if often feels like we are in a state of celebration from our engagement date to our wedding date. Its all good.

                      Hammock Answered on September 18, 2019.
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                          • Do you make a big deal out of your anniversary? Nope.
                          • Why or why not?  Too many of them and neither one of us is very sentimental.
                          • Do you take a trip each year?  Nope.
                          • Do you go out to eat?  Yes.
                          • Do you exchange gifts?  Nope.
                          • Do you always have sex?   Nope.
                          • Do you have “special” sex?   Nope.
                          • Do you look at photos or watch the wedding video or put on the dress?  No, our wedding was before the advent of video, and the dress no longer fits.
                          • Do you have some tradition unique to you?  Nope.
                          • Does knowing your marriage has passed another milestone make you feel any particular way?  Not really.
                          • Do you feel more “smoochy” or “lovey-dovey” around your anniversary?  Nope.
                          • Have you ever renewed your vows?  Nope.
                          • Is there anything you’ve never done to celebrate but would like to?  Nope.
                          • Do your friends and family remember and celebrate with you or forget?  Our daughter remembers and posts old pictures of us on Facebook.
                          • What else would you like to share about celebrating your anniversary?  Coincidentally I was just thinking about this today, how my husband ruined our wedding so that I can’t enjoy reminiscing about that day.  I’m very happy we got married, but there is nothing about our wedding day (or night) that I like remembering. 🙁
                        Hammock Answered on September 17, 2019.

                        How sad. I am so sorry. Is there a happy memory of some “first” together that you can remember instead?

                        on September 18, 2019.
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