How do you overcome ticklishness in TMB when it breaks the focus of the pleasure and moment?
My wife is quite ticklish. It sometimes interrupts our LM because I can be giving a sensual massage and enjoying the whole experience when with just a touch will break the mood because she starts giggling. It seems like after that any kind of caressing stroke or touch anywhere gets her going. Does anyone else have a similar experience and how do you handle it?
I have experienced that some…. for me, I have noticed how ticklish something is, is wrapped around where my mind is (or isn’t.) Becoming ticklish can be a sign of a vulnerability, maybe a feeling is moving into a place that she is mentally or emotionally uncomfortable with or nervous about. Also, for me, being ticklish is also a sign that I am not fully aroused.
On the physical side, a firm pressure is better than something that is light. If you move into a ticklish region, go back to a “safe” place until the giggles pass, and hopefully you can move on.
One other thought…. some of my best bedroom moments have included laughter. I do much better with laughter than any “romantic” scenes. My heart and soul will open up under the comfort and joy of laughter, much more than something that is too serious, where I feel is too vulnerable so I feel I must guard myself. You could choose to seize the laughter as a form of intimacy and go with it. 🙂
I agree with @SC—laughter can be a great addition to the MB, especially when you’re laughing together, not at one another. I don’t intentionally tickle DW, but when she’s not fully warmed up yet, she tends to be pretty ticklish, especially on her breasts. I find that we often have some playful time early on in a sexual encounter, and then as things heat up we get more sensual and passionate. However, the playfulness May return, especially after DW has O’ed. One of the things I love about our MB is that medley of playfulness and passion, laughter and moans.
For me it’s about whether I’m all the way aroused yet and how light or firm the touch is. (Well, where too. I’m not as sensitive some places as others.)
For DH, he’s just super extremely ticklish AFTER and so once he’s done there is no more play, nuh-uh, no way. I would love to figure out a way to desensitize him a little then.
My DH is pretty ticklish, and super super ticklish on his feet. I avoid his ear lobes, although I am trying to help him with the ticklish part, and also am careful around his neck, as well. As for his feet, oh wow, I didn’t know anyone could be so ticklish on the feet. Just a tiny twitch of my toe in bed, will make him jerk away, even if he is sleeping. I can’t even gently touch his feet or toes, EVER! It sets him off, and than he can get very upset! No giggling from him, trust me! So for us, its avoidance, although I try to harden him off somewhat. Whats interesting, is we often sleep with our feet intertwined and touching, but if I so much as twitch and touch the wrong spot, I get a reaction! However, he can move his feet as much as he wants and nobody minds!
I have never in our 35 year marriage, had a ticklish problem on my wife until now.
So she has pain with PIV for the last year. Hormones helped in the past but she always forgets and if I remind her to take the hormone creams, I am an irritant to her and all I want is sex…etc. (these creams go on your skin lightly)
So Sex has gotten boring to me, but I can give her O easily by hand. So…the other day I clued her into my fantasy to perform OS on her and “it would be so great, etc.” So she allowed it, which is rare. As soon as I made contact, she was overwhelmed by ticklishness. Said for me to not go so light, but since she had an O beforehand, she said it may have something to do with it. I simply stated that I needed more practice. She was open to it. The OS attempt was stopped.
But really, how do I fix this or what do I do? (tying her up and tickling her is torture to her she says.)
For my wife it’s the amount of pressure whehter with the hand/fingers or even the stroke of a feaher, too lite especially in the small of her back and then there’s no touching with that same stroke anywhere. Interesting that your H can move anyway he wants with no reaction but as soon as you do, he reacts.