How Female Brain Works with Alisa Vitti

    Hey Beloved,

    I listened to this podcast yesterday and this was eye-opening.  The information may explain why certain sexual issues are encountered as well.

    If you are inclined, give a listen and post your thoughts.  The podcast is 17 minutes.  Look for episode #159


    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on January 12, 2020 in None of The Above.
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      Thanks for sharing! I thought it was fascinating. I’d heard of the infradian rhythm but had never given much thought to its benefits. I’m certainly going to do more research on it. I’m particularly interested in how exercise and nutrition needs vary over the cycle.

      I can certainly see this in my own life. I’m an introvert by nature, needing periods of solitude to recharge my energy. However, given that I’m currently in the fallopial phase, I’m not noticing that I need that recharge as much. This discovery will probably lead me to keep better track of what’s going on.

      What this means for women is unclear, however. We live in a world that’s circadian based. I can’t just decide to schedule social events around an infradian pattern – however much I might want to! (“Nope, sorry, that meet and greet is in my luteal phase, so you’ll have to reschedule!”)

      I also don’t think that our society as a whole can handle it right now. Discussions like this invariably lead to remarks about women and their hormones, and then brushed off. It’s hurtful. Any awareness that I learn would probably best be kept to myself, and particularly in my male-dominated volunteer work.

      In terms of my marriage, however, it might lead to more open communication with my husband. I’m thinking specifically of my in-laws. Sometimes I can handle them, and other times I know that being around them will trigger a relapse of my mental health issues. Not that I plan to use it as an excuse, but it explains more about why some weekly family dinners are simply out of the question for me. It might lead to better understanding on both our parts, particularly since I know my depression can be affected by my cycle.

      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 12, 2020.

      DG i so agree with you about brushing women off because of their hormones. Also how does this play in after menopause?

      on January 12, 2020.

      SoA, I was thinking the same thing. Do we become largely circadian after that point? Do we lose that 25% boost that the interviewee was talking about? Is it less stressful to be governed by only one cycle? I have so many questions. I really want to research this more.

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        Thanks for sharing, Elevation.

        We are quite familiar with this general concept, having been trained in NFP while engaged and taking it very seriously. We are/were very happy with what we learned with the monitoring of Zelda’s cycle and are still amazed to this day at how little the average man (and even woman) seem to know about the cycle.

        That said, there were a few weaknesses with our old training. First, it was presented as solely a fertile/not fertile thing, so additional information on Zelda’s changes were not taught. We picked up on many of them ourselves over the course of a few months, though I’m sure there are more we are unaware of.  Second, instead of the four phases discussed in your link, we only learned three (menstrual, follicular, and luteal). It’s becoming more clear to me with time that ovulatory truly is its own phase, however short that may be.

        Something of extreme interest to me is the four-hormone plot shown here (note: this is Figure 1 on Wikipedia’s follicular phase page if you want more context). To me, I see a continuum of possibilities, not four distinct “phases”. Beyond that, the ovulatory phase is highly unique.

        I’ve recently had my interest in this re-invigorated after years of thinking we had it down. The main reason for this is that we’ve only had a few cycles of Zelda getting all the way there, and the ease of her crossing the threshold does not seem to correspond with her cycle in the same way as her desire/spontaneity/etc. The most extreme example was a recent session right at ovulation where she exhibited spontaneous desire, was easily aroused, and strongly wanted to go for the O (I honestly don’t remember a time quite like that night). Getting her going was quick and easy but she couldn’t cross for the longest time, and we had to finally finish her with something we’ve never had to do before (no sin involved). That’s not a one-off, as I’ve noticed a surprising difficulty in getting her all the way near ovulation despite her general increased desire. There’s also the opposite, with a case right at the end of the menstrual phase where she had little/no interest at the start (probably would have said no if it hadn’t been long for me), then once started she experienced the strongest physical pleasure and easiest time she’s ever had for climax. It honestly shocked both of us.

        So not to make this a science experiment, but definitely would like to know more in this area.


        On the floor Answered on January 15, 2020.
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          What did you learn

          Double bed Answered on January 12, 2020.
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