How Often Do You Makeout?
I am curious if other couples enjoy making out with it not leading to sex. It seems like everytime we cuddle or kiss my dh wants it to lead to sex. I like just a lazy evening of smooching without it escalating to intercourse.
We do kiss, hug, fondle, etc. at various points in the day without it necessarily resulting in intercourse. Sometimes it is just what we need. Other times it is foreshadowing of what is coming!
AMEN!!! Same as what he said.
Tabitha, given your previous postings about sex or lack thereof in your MB, unless something’s changed, I can’t imagine how or why you expect your husband to not get turned on when making out and him not get excited for things to continue. It’s like you’re asking a race car driver to get into a super-charged sports car, turn it on, rev the engine, and not take it for a spin. That doesn’t seem loving or fair in your situation when you’re not regularly having sex.
With my DW’s continued kissing, fondling, petting and stroking, actually on both our parts and regularly making love, especially with DW regularly holding & caressing my penis, I don’t need feel the need to always jump her bones, even when I flirt hard with her. I can just enjoy the “love” she offers…and then there are times when she initiates, just because or because I asked the previous night and she wanted to take a pass, so she initiated in the early morning while we were both awake…or the next night. I know that no matter what, I’m loved and sex will happen on a regular basis so kissing doesn’t always…or always need to, start the “launch sequence”. 😀
I think it’s important to read Tabitha’s other posts on this site, and read the original post in the context of a marriage where you say that you and your husband have sex once a month or less.
In that context, it’s not surprising that your husband isn’t satisfied with kissing and cuddling.
Kissing, cuddling and fondling are inherently sexual behaviours, and every time you do that you’re sending him a signal that you want sexual intimacy with him. Essentially, what you’re doing is initiating sex and then telling him that he can’t have it. No wonder he’s frustrated.
We kiss pretty much every day now, with some of that certainly qualifying as “making out”. Some of it leads to sex, but some does not (most does not, actually). I sometimes hesitate because I worry she thinks I will expect sex, which actually makes it easiest to make out if the kids are still awake or she’s menstruating. So you might try one or both of those times.
You didn’t ask, but have you considered allowing your husband to get aroused from a make-out session and then giving him release through a quick HJ (or having him do it)? I know you’re not big into full-blown sex, but this is a way you could bless him with very little “downside” for you.
Unfortunately, not very much. It primarily is the prelude to when we have sex. I’ll take some blame for that because I could initiate it. But it can also be a challenge when your 15 yr old son is around and never know when he will show up in the family room. I guess that’s where creativity comes into play.
It almost always leads to, or is part of sex for us. We have a house full of kids and my wife is not a touch, cuddler, or kissy kissy kind of gal. That said, if we often had the house to ourselves combined with a level of quality sex that was enough to satisfy the HD spouse, we might make out on occasion without sex.