“How to Find a Marriage Counselor”

This may be a good resource for some.  This video also shares the difference between a counselor and therapist.  Such as, it is actually unethical for a marriage counselor to try to facilitate reconciliation if one person wants out of the marriage.  A counselor focuses on an individual, while a marriage/family therapist focuses on a system, the person is a part of a larger system, like a larger family unit.

This is Kimberly Holmes from Marriage Helper

How to Find a Marriage Counselor


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    I have been taught that there are three levels of counsel, peer, pastoral and professional.  Many marriages never utilize their peers including church relationships.  Many are too fearful of a pastor, theirs or another.   Many wait too long and until it is too late to seek professional counseling.  I know of many counselors not good at what they do and many therapists  who are ineffective.  But it was Jesus who said that it is the sick that  need a doctor and that would include counselors and therapists.

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 6, 2020.

    What I see missing is the acknowledgment and belief that we have the Healer, the Great Physician, and the Counselor, and we don’t seek Him first. I believe there would be a lot more transformation and healing if people would humble themselves and seek Him. How many times in Scripture do we see healings happen because they went to physicians? We saw crazy things like dipping themselves in a body of water, or rubbing mud on their eyes, we saw a crazy man (mentally ill) become instantly sane, but we know they had physicians because one thing said about King Asa was, “His disease was severe, yet even in his disease he did not seek the Lord, but the physicians.” (2 Chron. 16). I am not saying there isn’t a place for them or that God won’t use them, but we ought to seek Him first and be obedient to what He calls us to do.

    on February 6, 2020.

    It’s true, it often seems like we go to the doctors first and only turn to God for healing when the doctors can’t help. I think it might not necessarily be as much a lack of faith as it is just the utilization of what God has already provided. When we have a house and enough clothes and a steady income, we thank him and recognize that it all comes from him, but we don’t necessarily implore him for those things he has already given. I see medical science (including psychology) as the effect of plans God put in place at creation. Like using reproductive systems instead of hand-forming and breathing life into each person and animal the way he did during the first six days. (I recognize that I am still wonderfully made by his hand.)

    Not making excuses for us, but I think it is also okay to seek his help through human channels right away.

    on February 6, 2020.
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      That was a fascinating video. It sounds like her organization, if not expressly Christian, certainly holds the same values. I have always wondered about the difference between a therapist and a counselor, but did not expect that.

      Thanks for sharing!

      Under the stars Answered on February 6, 2020.
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