Husbands and wives, what is one sexual thing be it

    OS or a position or attitude that you’ve seen your spouse do a radical attitude shift on, to your hopes, desires and delight?

    (for me because i can’t speak for my H but it was me performing OS to completion on him, he has never asked for it or expected it, just never even was made a need or desire or topic of convo but after a huge awakening and TMB forum, i just asked him to let me do it).

    K

    on April 4, 2020.
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      I’ve spoken to this before, but adding a vibe to our sex life. She wasn’t opposed to it per se, but she’d never really considered it (and neither had I!)

      Now it’s used every time and make sex so much more physically pleasurable for her. It even serves to improve bonding between us, as I can now communicate/work with her to make sure she O’s, which brings a whole new level of intimacy. It’s awesome!

      -Scott

      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on April 2, 2020.
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        I used to kiss and suckle DW’s nipples, but nursing our daughter kinda killed that for the last five years.
        However, after some long frustrating conversations and me expressing how much I loved that she’s been slowly letting down her defenses again.
        The other day during foreplay she actually grabbed my hand and said “do it like this”. That’s HUGE for her.

        California King Answered on April 2, 2020.

        awesome! That is huge for her, i know what it’s like to have an aversion to breast play although i do not now.

        on April 2, 2020.
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          Like Scott said, introducing a vibe was a huge change for us.  It had a negative connotations originally to my DW.  Introduced one and she was both a bit skeptical and it didn’t do much for her.  I got a different one, the wife allowed her inhibitions down a little more, and it was a radical change to say the least.  We actually had to stop going to it all the time because we both felt we were becoming too dependent on it.  But it’s definitely opened up our LM.

          Queen bed Answered on April 3, 2020.

          Can you elaborate on how you felt dependent on it? I guess I could see if she was regularly climaxing without it, but for us, there really hasn’t been a choice otherwise.

          -Scott

          on April 3, 2020.

          Yeah, and that’s not a bad thing, either.  But we both got to the point where we were almost rushing foreplay to get to the vibe (because we both knew that was an “easy O.”)  Again, not always a bad thing, but it felt like she was more so LM to the vibe and not to me…  So we didn’t stop using it, but just prioritized the entire process, and not just the O.

          on April 3, 2020.

          Hubz this is what i need to do, we do rely on the vibe A LOT although i’m able to O without it, use it to speed up the process as i can very easily lose steam if i think i’m taking too long.

          on April 3, 2020.
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            One is that she allowed me to do  OS on her. Now she loves it and is very accepting and  welcoming: Yah, I could say, she lays out the carpet for me !

            Another would be her increased freedom in being naked with me and expressing her sexuality.

            Thirdly, would be her willingness to do OS to completion. It took a year or so into our marriage for that to happen but I recall it being a major shift then.

             

            Under the stars Answered on April 3, 2020.
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              I can’t say there has ever been anything I would consider a radical shift. We certainly are not the most adventerous couple, but don’t seem to have any serious reservations either. There are a few things that have never been on the menu, so to speak, but they are few, and as such, there are other things we both enjoy. It really wouldn’t make much sense focusing on what is off the menu, when there is so much that is.

              On the floor Answered on April 2, 2020.
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                It would be a shift in her adding some provocative language while making love and adding some anal play at times.

                On the floor Answered on April 3, 2020.
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                  I was also delighted and a bit surprised when my DW agreed to try a vibrator. It was the key to her being able to orgasm.

                   

                  On the floor Answered on April 4, 2020.
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                    It may be because of my tiredness, but I am having a hard time understanding the question, especially with the last part added on. Can someone explain it to someone who is thinking a little slow?

                    Under the stars Answered on April 2, 2020.

                    In the first sentence, the first “to” should be “do”. The example SOA gives is an example of what her DH would say.
                    -Scott

                    on April 2, 2020.

                    Sorry, i put a comma after the word “to”  as in what shift have they done be it (insert whatever) comma…to your delight, etc.? also i fixed it to do LOL. I am absolutely terrible at wording things which is why i don’t ask a lot of Q

                    on April 2, 2020.

                    What’s the “on to your hopes, desies and delights?” Maybe I’m not getting it because I have never experienced it personally.

                    on April 2, 2020.

                    Let’s put it this way SC.  Let’s say i really had hopes that we would introduce a vibrator, which we actually ended up doing. It had never really been on the table but to my delight and hope, my husband accepted and now relishes the idea. See..that is poorly worded also.

                    on April 2, 2020.

                    Your example helps 🙂

                    on April 2, 2020.
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                      wife completely shaved the kitty.

                      King bed Answered on April 2, 2020.
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                        He did some reading and changing on how to lead better.

                        Under the stars Answered on April 4, 2020.
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