Husbands and wives, what is one sexual thing be it
OS or a position or attitude that you’ve seen your spouse do a radical attitude shift on, to your hopes, desires and delight?
(for me because i can’t speak for my H but it was me performing OS to completion on him, he has never asked for it or expected it, just never even was made a need or desire or topic of convo but after a huge awakening and TMB forum, i just asked him to let me do it).
I’ve spoken to this before, but adding a vibe to our sex life. She wasn’t opposed to it per se, but she’d never really considered it (and neither had I!)
Now it’s used every time and make sex so much more physically pleasurable for her. It even serves to improve bonding between us, as I can now communicate/work with her to make sure she O’s, which brings a whole new level of intimacy. It’s awesome!
I used to kiss and suckle DW’s nipples, but nursing our daughter kinda killed that for the last five years.
However, after some long frustrating conversations and me expressing how much I loved that she’s been slowly letting down her defenses again.
The other day during foreplay she actually grabbed my hand and said “do it like this”. That’s HUGE for her.
Like Scott said, introducing a vibe was a huge change for us. It had a negative connotations originally to my DW. Introduced one and she was both a bit skeptical and it didn’t do much for her. I got a different one, the wife allowed her inhibitions down a little more, and it was a radical change to say the least. We actually had to stop going to it all the time because we both felt we were becoming too dependent on it. But it’s definitely opened up our LM.
One is that she allowed me to do OS on her. Now she loves it and is very accepting and welcoming: Yah, I could say, she lays out the carpet for me !
Another would be her increased freedom in being naked with me and expressing her sexuality.
Thirdly, would be her willingness to do OS to completion. It took a year or so into our marriage for that to happen but I recall it being a major shift then.
I can’t say there has ever been anything I would consider a radical shift. We certainly are not the most adventerous couple, but don’t seem to have any serious reservations either. There are a few things that have never been on the menu, so to speak, but they are few, and as such, there are other things we both enjoy. It really wouldn’t make much sense focusing on what is off the menu, when there is so much that is.