I have just discovered today, July 6, 2020 is National Kissing Day! Let’s all celebrate!
How often do you spend an extended amount of time just kissing without expecting it to lead anywhere? I used to love doing that before we were married! (We don’t do it a lot and should do it a whole lot more!)
Definitely going to make sure DH knows about this “holiday” tonight! 😀
We’ve really picked up the kissing in 2020 as her touched-outness fades and she gets further postpartum. Most of our “doesn’t lead anywhere” kissing happens in front of the kids, sometimes grossing out our oldest. But occasionally we’ll also have random make-out episodes, but I don’t know if those count because it often primes the pump for later that night…
Thanks for a heads up on today’s “holiday”!
When not in our marriage bed, our kisses are usually the quick ‘pecking’ kinds of kisses, and even those small ones grosses our kids out. The longer romantic kisses are definitely saved for when we are making love, but I think I will start incorporating them at random times during the day. I am still working at home and should take more ‘advantage’ of the extra time I spend near DW!
I try to kiss my wife as long as possible when I come in the home from work, at least 15-20 sec combined with a hug because that’s how long it takes for hormones to be released. Granted, we’re not playing tonsil hockey in the kitchen (most of the time anyway), especially with her girls around. While I’m at it, I might add in a good butt squeeze for my, I mean, her enjoyment. 😁
Make out sessions post-dating, now marriage? Not likely. While I like them, they’re usually going somewhere because they can now that I’ve given a ring AND exchanged vows in front of family and friends.
My philosophy has always been if the kids are gonna complain, give them something good to complain about as well as kids need something to talk about with their therapist when they’re 30, so make it memorable and worthwhile. 🤣🤣🤣
It is interesting to see the answers here. Kissing I think is very intimate. In fact one can be mad at their spouse, initiate and complete PIV but not kiss because at the moment, they “don’t like them.” To really engage in kiss, one seems to have to have a deeper connection to another than for intercourse. Hence the old idea that prostitutes don’t kiss – i.e. “Pretty Woman.” So it is concerning at least when I see this in my marriage, as with others. We do still kiss, and DW is making an effort to do it more frequently now. At one time, early on, kissing was a MAJOR turn-on for her. But as sex became more and more problematic, she disconnected the two. As someone said, kissing usually lead to sex, and when sex becomes negative…. That feeling started to become mutual.
I’ve heard others say that it becomes needless once sex is open and available, why waste the time? I think that is very short-sighted as well.
Didnt know there was a holiday, and since I missed it, I’ll just have to make it up!