I learned a great new word:
Funny Scott, I had the same thinking when I looked up the definition, but I wasn’t going to go there like you just did. 😀 But since you started it 😉 …..
In my page of options of my google search, this was an example of usage, “Even his relationship with his wife has hurt his sex appeal: Uxorious men are never sexy for long.”
Personally, this would have described my husband prior to 2012. There’s a difference between doting and submitting, and even if a man desires to have his wife take the lead sexually and “submit” there, to have a whole lifestyle of it…ugh….the adjectives that come to my mind are, weak and fearful, but I know that some of my husband’s motivation behind his actions is that he loves me so much, he desires to give me what I want. But all the while, he was lacking giving me what I truly wanted, and that was to be led.
“Having or showing an excessive or submissive fondness for one’s wife.”
At what point does this go too far and turn into the “repulsive submissive husband” we’ve talked about on here multiple times lately? More secularly, is there a point where this reaches “whipped”?
It really makes me think that the husband’s role can, and potentially should, be a duality at times.
The jokes that people tell about that kind of relationship are so prevalent, too. The DJ at our wedding reception told such a joke. I felt so uncomfortable that I actually called her out on it in front of everyone – and was applauded. It saddens me that the people in control of the cameras and mics treat men this way so often. I’m glad that my son has strong and empathetic male role models in his life given how men are often represented.
Those definitions do sound nice. I saw the same ones Scott did. My impression of the word doesn’t fit that cartoon STG shared either….she just looks like a nag and he’s wrapped up in passivity.
As I alluded to with my husband, he can be so loving, excessively so, that he wants me to have everything I desire, that he would almost grovel at my feet (submissive). It was also easy for a fear of me and my displeasure to slip in and control him, where he wouldn’t even share his own thoughts or desires, it was all about me.
Okay, so I’m just now getting back to this and hadn’t realized there were so many bad connotations to this word. I get a Word of the Day e-mail from wordgenius.com, and the two definitions they sent were: 1. Excessively affectionate toward one’s wife. 2. Devoted to one’s wife.
I thought that sounded kind of nice. :-/