I need some suggestions on how to get my reluctant wife to have spooning sex.
A few questions:
- Why is spooning so important to you? Maybe explaining why you want to make love that way will help your wife want to give it a try
- why is she afraid it will turn into anal sex? Is it because spooning is a rear entry position or is anal sex something you want to try and she’s uncomfortable with? It sounds like she needs some reassurance on this point.
- related to the above, is this an issue with spooning specifically or is your wife resistant to any kind of sexual exploration?
Afraid it will move to AS during that encounter, or that it will slowly lead to AS sometime in the future?
If it’s the former, just promise her it won’t and tell her that if you accidentally start poking too close, have her tell you and you’ll adjust immediately.
Are there trust issues in your marriage that make her afraid you will do something she doesn’t want to do? Or have there been instances in the past where you had trouble finding the right hole, so to speak? She can always guide you to the right spot if that’s an issue.
Is she reluctant about variety in general? Is this just an excuse for wanting to stick with comfortable and familiar? The best approach for that sort of problem is to work on the intimacy first and then go into greater sexual variety in a playful, no pressure way,