If an orgasm for either spouse was not the ultimate objective ( unattainable, etc.), what form of sexual intimacy would be most satisfying?

    As we’ve aged, the big ‘O’ takes a back seat to delicious sexual intimacy. There are times that skin-to-skin cuddling with tender kissing and touching is just plain great sex. Both of us delight in Mrs. Oldbear bringing me to her breast at leisure and to bask in the wonder of the intimacy and nurturing of our relationship through this sensual activity.

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      There is a wholeness and intimacy with PIV that goes far beyond orgasm, for me. Even if I could never orgasm, I would still want that closeness. If PIV weren’t available, I’d likely want him suckling at my breasts, while I ensure his own pleasure. That is pleasing to me on such a deep level, beyond just sex, and into my nature as a nurturer. I can’t begin to think of how things would work, if he didn’t want sex at all, because he couldn’t stay aroused, or reach climax. On the occasion when that has happened, he has shut down completely, and refuses any intimacy and/or affection.

      Queen bed Answered on June 24, 2019.
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        Interesting question. For me pretty much any kind of sexual stimulation over time will give me an orgasm. If I had the ability to completely control my orgasm or it wasn’t possible for some reason I would say the following:

        Intercourse. Nothing is more pleasurable to me than thrusting into DW. Like most guys I would really like to last longer than a few minutes. If I could hold off an orgasm indefinitely I would thrust into her as hard and fast as I could until she started feeling sore.

        For non-pentrative sex the most satisfying thing for me would be anything involving DW’s breasts. I love squeezing them in my hands, filling my mouth with them, or feeling them rub against my body. When DW arches her back to display her breasts prominently I am putty in her hands.

        California King Answered on June 23, 2019.
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          Definitely PIV. Looking into each other’s eyes while naked and physically united is the most intimate, vulnerable and connecting experience.

          Fell out of ... Answered on June 24, 2019.
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            With a full hysterectomy (including the cervix) coming up, and the resultant hormonal changes, I have been wondering this very thing. What will we do if I just can’t enjoy sex any more? (Granted, survival is my first concern, but having hope and faith in Christ that I will, our sex life becomes the next big worry!) If that happens, I think kissing and cuddling will be the most satisfying intimacy to me. I will certainly be able to perform and hope I will still enjoy giving him OS, and hope that my clitoris will continue to function well so that we can stimulate that to orgasm even if I lose interest in PIV, or if my V doesn’t work the way it did. I feel like we are really coming into our best element in our sex life just in the last several years, so I really hope we are not brought up short but are able to continue getting better and better.

            Under the stars Answered on June 23, 2019.
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              If it is not not PIV, then it would be time on my DW breasts.. She is so very generous with the wonderful gifts God has given her! For me, next, PIV, it is the most intimate place for me to be.

              Twin bed Answered on June 23, 2019.
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                We would still enjoy many of the things that we love doing now. Presenting ourselves erotically to each other, giving each other massages, spooning, etc. But most satisfying would probably be a combo of embracing each other’s naked bodies and soothing and arousing each other with OS!

                Under the stars Answered on June 23, 2019.
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                  Skin on skin and focusing on all those other erogenous zones.

                  Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                    For me, skin to skin contact is awesome.

                    Hammock Answered on June 29, 2019.
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