If men’s nudity were common in the media, what affect do you believe it would have on you as a man, or on the culture as a whole?
Over on the question about husbands watching nudity, here, @SongofAngels asked these questions in a comment:
“Also i am wondering how husbands would feel if this world were reversed? We are so used to seeing naked women and rarely a naked man (thankfully) what would husbands think if there was a chance that in well over half the movies that there was a naked man?”
That has made me wonder also, how would men/husbands feel about this? How would they feel about their wives and/or children having the chance to see this regularly in mainstream media?
What impact would constantly seeing another man’s nudity have on their own self image? Do you men believe you would fall into the cycle of comparison? Would you start feeling “lesser than” or “not enough”? Would you be more likely to start having less confidence in sharing your nakedness, knowing that your wife, or others, may be judging your body against everything else they’ve seen …. and remember, that the men chosen to show their full bodies will only fit in the criteria that Hollywood and the culture deems “ideal”…. that means there won’t be smaller men (penises), nor even many average sized men, only those who are “above average”….and those who aren’t that way naturally, they may find some kind of implants to make them so. What if it was deemed that only one, whether circumcised or uncircumcised, were really the “ideal” penis, what would all the boys and men feel and start believing, about the other side? And if there is someone shown out of that “ideal”, it is most likely to be for the sake of humor or has a negative message surrounding it.
In what ways do you think this would be the same as women deal with now, and what ways may it be different?
Perhaps due to my many years in a locker room, I’m inured to the nude form of a male. I never recall comparing myself to another man in terms of comparing our sexual endowment or his sexual attraction to women. I did measure how I stacked up against other men, athletically; the competitive fellow I am.
If visual media were reversed relative to gender nakedness, I would probably respond the same way to naked men on the screen – no big deal. Nor would Mrs. Oldbear be lured or tantalized, I don’t believe. We would tune out or turn off any male nudity as we would female nudity.
I feel like yes, you did describe porn. I know that my porn-viewing abusive ex-boyfriend had terrible self esteem issues because of the things you mentioned.
And when full frontal male nudity was briefly shown in the Starz series “Outlander” there was an article written that demonstrated how shocking that was to the author’s ego. I mean, the audacity of a director to show such intimate male nudity! Shouldn’t that be off limits? I remember laughing at an article thinking that what’s good for the goose ought to be good for the gander. Plenty of female nudity on that show, but no outrage over that.
I think the media affects us all. It’s just more prevalent with females.
Um, so much to discuss. Mainstream media outside the states has a lot of male nudity – both movies and free to air tv. Normal nudity, not titillating nudity. And males in the rest of the world aren’t bereft because they don’t stack up somehow.
And I would challenge the porn view. Again, the vast majority of porn produced in the world depicts normal people with normal bits doing normal stuff. And enjoying it.
When I was deployed to Afghanistan, one of the shows that was popular was “Sparticus”. That show had some issues! I for all practical purposes was soft core porn IMO. More than once do I remember seeing the men drop their loin cloth and expose themselves for all to see. It never made me real uncomfortable…as someone said earlier, I’ve spent my Military Career in open showers and locker rooms. I have never been a comparison kind of guy…but I do recall a day in a gym shower where another man looked me dead in the face after looking at me and said “are you kidding me?”. I took it as a compliment and got the heck out of that shower room with haste! I could however understand if a wife and husband were to view this show or others like it and saw a penis larger than the husbands…there could be some “negative comparison”? None of us are perfect, and I can only wonder how many husbands would be embarrassed because they are “just enough” and I can also only wonder how many wives would in the their heart ask “I wonder how that would feel”. My DW is not a visually person when it comes to sexuality, so for her, whenever there’s nudity on TV, she gets embarrassed, not turned on.
Of course, full-frontal nudity for a man shows a lot more of his genitals than when a woman does it. Walking around a locker room he’s showing it all, while she is showing almost nothing below the waist. I would think that plays into this in some way.