If you have been caught masturbating (any age), who caught you and how was it handled? If you caught your child/spouse MBing, how would you respond?

    Views on masturbation vary widely. For some folks it’s a perfectly natural act and encouraged or celebrated. One the other hand, it is consider taboo and guilt producing.

    What has been and is your experience and viewpoint on masturbation?

    I noticed that my second question was cut-off.  It should read . . .

    If you caught your child or spouse masturbating, how would you respond?

    [Perhaps the Admin can fix the original Question.]

    on May 30, 2019.

    Oldbear,  because I have enough points, I can go in and edit questions. (Which is an issue for me, but I might as well use it for good 🙂 )  I went in and took away the word “ever” in the first question, and I took out “or” and replaced it with an “/” and abbreviated the second masturbating to “MBing”.  There is a 150 character limit, and that is why your question was cut off.  Check out the edits and see if it gets across the heart, if it doesn’t I can go back and change it to whatever you want. Holding up my right hand:  I promise to never use this power without the knowledge or consent of any poster.

    on May 30, 2019.

    Early in our marriage (now married 29 yrs) mrs livver caught me (I was trying to take care of business during her time of the month) Herrepky – please tell me and take care of yourself in front of me)    From that day forward we have always admired waTching each other masterbate ….. bottom line : embrace it

    on June 5, 2019.
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      I didn’t talk about my girls…First off, if i walked in on my daughters, there’s more problems than the one being asked…

      But if my wife did, she’d flip out cause she’s definitely on the “taboo” side…I’d be like…go ahead.

      On the floor Answered on May 30, 2019.

      What are the “more problems” you are speaking of?  I can think of multiple reasons why a parent may accidentally walk in on a child and catch them, without it being a “problem”.   Do you teach your girls that it’s wrong to masturbate?  Do you address their sexuality with them at all?

      on May 30, 2019.

      When I say “more problems”, I’m thinking more about the fact that I have 16 and 19 yr old girls, and if I was to walk in on them without knocking, I’m opening the door (no pun intended) to seeing them changing, which I think could be just as bad. If I had boys, I wouldn’t care…I’d waltz right in there.

      I have not taught my girls anything about masturbation, because my DW views solo MB as dirty, so I’ve never been given the freedom to explain that it’s ok. I’ve had to pick my battles with my wife and this is one I’ve chosen to not fight. I don’t know if she’s even talked about it with them. And to be honest, I don’t know if they even care. I’ve never seen either of my girls show an ounce of interest in any of it. They’re too busy staring at one screen or another. If they are doing it, they are keeping it secret.

      I have spoken to them about sex, but probably not as much as I should…and not because I’m embarrassed, but because my wife probably wouldn’t approve of it. I have a hard enough time talking to her in the open about it, so I’m not sure how she’d react if I was to do it…

      I think she honestly believes because I had an affair, I have a perverted, dirty mind, and that will never change…so I’m sure MB is no different.

      on May 31, 2019.

      Thanks for the explanation.  Just the other day, I almost walked in on my daughter changing. It was morning, her door was closed, which I did find a little odd because she doesn’t typically sleep with it closed, but I didn’t give it much thought because there were logical reasons on why it could be closed. I knew she was supposed to be awake earlier than normal and I hadn’t seen nor heard any sign of her,  so I was going to sneak in quietly to wake her.  Well, she was awake.  If she hadn’t just been up and dressing near the door to stop it from swinging in, and was instead in her bed doing other things, it would have been an innocent “catching”….not a “problem”, IMO.

      on May 31, 2019.
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        I can’t remember where my conviction came from that it was sinful, but I do remember that every time I succumbed to the temptation as a teen I felt completely loaded down with guilt. If anyone ever knew I was doing it, they never let me know they knew (for which I am eternally grateful.) After marriage, I discovered how much of an advantage to our sex life it was to know my body and its responses so well…but still felt loads of guilt over the past.  Eventually I have come to believe as others have said, that it is a natural part of sexuality, but that is a cerebral belief; the underlying guilt is still in-grained. When Hubby and I do so as part of our time together, I have no problem with it.  I am not sure how to approach it with our daughter. At the moment we are “playing it by ear.”

        Under the stars Answered on May 30, 2019.
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          About 4 years ago I was working a seasonal side job that didn’t let me get home until well after midnight long after everyone was in bed.  During this time I slept in the guest room on the nights i worked so as not to disturb my wife’s sleep.  One night I felt like a release would help me sleep.  As luck would have it, that night my wife woke up and came to the guest room to see if I was home yet.  Caught me mid act, gasped, said I was disgusting and went back to bed.  When I tried to address it the next morning she said she didn’t want to talk about it and I’m a grown man and I can do what I want.

          Twin bed Answered on May 30, 2019.
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            Quite a range of experiences and feelings on the subject. I always thought it would be a great way to connect with my wife. She tells me that she will never be able to understand it. Maybe one day I’ll convince her.

            Fell out of ... Answered on June 4, 2019.
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