I’m back! (I think)

    Hi, all! 

     

    This is DoveGrey, if you remember me. I haven’t been here in almost a year, but I’ve often thought about you all, prayed for you during this pandemic, and have wanted to be back.

    I typically visit the site on my tablet, but the site kept logging me off to the point of frustration. And when the pandemic hit, my profession became hugely impacted in the amount of time we are required to work if we want to be successful. Both Dh and I are pulling 60+ hour work weeks, and it’s been brutal on ourselves and our marriage. My sex drive has been so low that we had a couple of months where one time in the marriage bed was it. I’m going to suspend a bit of anonymity and just ask for prayers for all teachers. We aren’t doing well collectively. Having 2 in the family makes it worse.

    I’ve got the week off and I’m doing everything I can to pull out of this funk. I decided to try this site again because of the blessing it was to our marriage. I was actually able to log in today, and hopefully it doesn’t log me off when I submit this post. 

    Anyway, I’m glad to be back and get reacquainted. I’ve got a lot of reading to catch up on! I will switch to my laptop if this doesn’t work. I practically live on the thing right now and need to take breaks, but it’s worth it if it blesses our marriage.

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on October 13, 2020 in Introduce Yourself.
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      You have often come to mind! It’s good to see you again!

      Under the stars Answered on October 13, 2020.

      It’s so good to see you, too!

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        So happy to hear from you again! You were/are such a huge blessing to TMB with your wise and humble sharing, and I always had great respect for you. 😀

        Oh, and good to know you’re safe too!

        -Scott

        Under the stars Answered on October 13, 2020.

        Thank you!  I’m hoping everyone here is safe, as well.  And the respect goes right back to you.  I’m looking forward to catching up with everyone.

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          Welcome back DG.

          I understand about the teachers as I have a lot of teachers or their spouses on my ministry teams and yes, they are putting in 12-14 hr days.  Two wks ago I let one know I was praying and asked if there was something I could specifically pray for him. He replied, “The time for praying about lightening the load is past, it’s not changing anytime soon. Pray for stronger shoulders for our teachers.”

          Under the stars Answered on October 13, 2020.

          This is the truth.  It does not get better.  We all thought it would as time progressed and we became used to it.  But you don’t get used to it, and there are no short cuts.  In fact, for most of us it will only get worse before it gets better.  It isn’t sustainable.  We need prayers for strength, for patience, for time management, for God to continue to hold us up as I know He has been doing.  But we as a profession are breaking.  I’m so grateful that I have very supportive parents this year.  When they send an email saying that they appreciate the work I’m putting in, it makes my whole week.

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            Welcome Back DoveGrey!  I remember you and had wondered how you are doing.  Thanks for your explanation.

            DW and I have seen what COVID has done to the teaching profession from the perspective of our 4th Gr granddaughter and 2nd Gr grandson who, along with their single-parent dad, were living with us the first 3 wks of school while relocating to our city… virtual classroom on M, W, and F and a much smaller real classroom on T and Th.  DW was doing most of the supervision of them on virtual school days with me in a support role but I was involved enough to listen to the teacher’s instructions and to get an idea of the complications that virtual teaching places on their teachers in addition to teaching the material itself.  I imagine that many tech-unsavvy  parents (and especially grandparents) who are thrust into supporting their E.S. children’s virtual schooling can add a level of frustration to your jobs too.

            I said a prayer for you and will remember to when I think of my grandkid’s school.

            P.S. – it looks like our grandson will start back 5 days in 2 wks and our granddaughter to 5 days  on Nov 10th.  Hopefully you and your H can get back to whatever “new normal” will be soon.

            On the floor Answered on October 13, 2020.

            Thank you for your prayers.  They are truly appreciated.

            I think that a large part of my work lies in knowing that many of my parents are not tech savvy.  I have bent over backwards making things as easy as possible for them.  I’ve gotten great feedback from parents that I’ve been successful in this task.  But it’s very tough.  It takes roughly 4 times as long to plan any lesson as it did in the normal times.  And I’m virtual only right now.  This will get worse when we go hybrid.  My motto right now is just to apply as much grace as I can for all situations, myself included.  I’m fortunate that I have a deeply Christian principal who has encouraged us in this line of thinking.  (Not that’s she’s said her faith in our public school setting.  We just all know it because she lives it.)

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            FWIW, I would think that any tech-unsavvy parent who has been forced into trying to help facilitate their young children’s education already knows how hard you teachers have to work to enable them to even function at a low level in their new role.   I know that my DW and I do. I am glad that your student’s parents are expressing their appreciation and confirming that your extra efforts are effective and not in vain.   Also that your principal is demonstrating Godly leadership and encouragement.  I agree with her too: you and your fellow teachers and husband can only do what you can do and when you reach your limit (beyond what you can sustain), you have to leave the rest in God’s hands.  He sees everything that you are doing and knows your heart and He’s pleased… trust Him with the rest. You already know that but believe it… now. DW and I are retired and her/my assistance does not affect our income but we know some families where one or both spouses are out of work or are on a much-reduced schedule making a fraction of the income they need to stay afloat.  Much like you and your husband, they had no advance warning this was coming and no matter how inadequate they may feel, they are doing their best for the good of their children while digging down deep to keep things together and waiting for answers to their prayers. God bless you sister, I’m praying for you and your profession.

            on October 14, 2020.
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              Welcome back! I was concerned and wondered what might have happened. Looking forward to your contributions again!!

              Under the stars Answered on October 13, 2020.

              Thank you!  I’m sorry I dropped off the boards with no warning.  Spring was tough.  I won’t do that again to you guys.

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                Its good to have you back, DoveGrey. I sometimes wondered where you were and hoped all was well.

                Under the stars Answered on October 13, 2020.

                Thanks!  I’ve wondered about all of you too, and I’m glad to be here.  This was a haven for me, and I’ve missed it.

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                  Welcome back!  Thank you for all you are doing as a teacher.  My friends that are teachers have shared just how hard all of this has been

                  On the floor Answered on October 13, 2020.

                  Thank you for your kind words.  It’s so tough for everyone right now.  This, too, shall pass.  (I just wish it would pass faster!)  God’s time, not ours.

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                    Glad to have you back!

                    On the floor Answered on October 13, 2020.

                    Thank you!

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                      I’m a teacher too. I’ve always worked a lot (doing lots of extra jobs to make ends meet so my wife can stay home), but this year I’ve worked more than any other time in my career (or life). We’ve kept the passion alive in our MB, but it’s taken a lot of intentional effort. I can sympathize with your situation, especially both being teachers. Will pray for you both!

                      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on October 13, 2020.

                      I will pray for you, too!  I agree – you always work a lot in this profession even when you don’t hold multiple jobs.  But this… this is madness.  I always thought there was no tired like teacher tired, but then Covid teacher tired came along and blew all of that other exhaustion out of the water!  God’s with us, and I just pray we’ll come out stronger on the other side.

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                        welcome back

                         

                        Queen bed Answered 6 days ago.
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