Intimacy supplements

    For my wife of 50+ years and with babies, teens and special needs in the house, job is at home; I am a fitness nut, take vitamins, supplements and in top shape at 58. She however, needs something.

    I have her on E, B complex, DHEA, 7-keto, reservatrol, chromium and acidophilus. She attempts to take her own C, ginseng, calcium and her other supplement for Sex drive increase. She often forgets to take any supplements. Once she went 4 days without taking them. On average, she will forget twice per week and go 2 to 4 days without supplements. Although she is ware of this, often acts as if she doesn’t care.

    Am I missing anything and what data does anyone have for Low Drive issues?

    How would we know what supplements your wife may need? It takes good blood work and a talented Functional Medicine Doctor to interpret the blood work results and make recommendations. I dislike the term” I have her on….” Are these supplements her choice or yours?

    on September 23, 2020.

    I disagree. Too often, we all want to turn to the one with a medical degree. Which is exactly how we got into this lockdown!

    I do not need to do bloodwork in order to adjust my Vitamin C during winter. But at levels above 2000mg It becomes toxic. I don’t need a doctor to tell me this.

    her hormone treatment worked last year. This year the added hormones gave her headaches and the hormones were stopped for awhile.

    I never demand she do anything. If she wants to be proactive, she will go to doctor or read online for answers. I do not force anything except what I think she’s deficient on such as calcium.

    on September 25, 2020.

    Doctor’s study for many years and there is a lot of research based on statistics and other types of research.  I wouldn’t dismiss the value of medical research, but I think we have to be careful not to blindly trust the doctor.  There is a saying that if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.  If you go to a surgeon, you aren’t likely to get a suggestion to take a homeopathic remedy for an ailment when surgery is an option.

    I had a doctor the last place I lived where the service at the doctors office was good.  But I noticed he seemed very conventional.   He said my vitamin D was low.  I asked if I should get more sun.  He said, no, that won’t do much.  Just take a supplement.  There are probably doctors who are into more natural medicine who would recommend more sun.

    on September 25, 2020.
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      CJ i don’t think you can really force anybody to take anything. I understand your frustration if you think those supplements ARE really helping her and not harming her body but that’s something she has to decide, or with the  help of a doctor.

      I don’t think there’s really anything especially in women’s health that can change a woman from LD to HD.  I am on BHRT doctor rx’d hormonal therapy and it hasn’t fundamentally changed my drive, nor really will any supplement out there.

      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 23, 2020.
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        In regards to hormones & supplements, many times there is a build-up period before an effect and change might occur. If things are irregular, I find it hard to believe that a proper build-up would occur and instead the body could be confused and/or never large enough to have the desired impact.

        The problem with supplements is that the chemistry isn’t an exact science since people are different, it’s not always predictable or have the desired or even effect.

        My DW is taking natural supplements for early onset menopause to reduce PMS effects and another for desire. They took about 2 months to build up. One stopped working so she had to switch to another. She feels the desire one has only helped get desire up to a 4 out of 10.

        Then there are also personality and relational issues to consider to. Pills aren’t the magic end all panacea I wish they were so you also need to consider the other relational issues you and your wife need to address individually and as a couple because thar can also impact the effectiveness of medicines and certainly your wife’s desire to por not to be diligent about her meds.

        Under the stars Answered on September 23, 2020.

        she’s not on meds.

        She also taking natural supplements that she found online.

        on September 25, 2020.
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          Read my post on Pt-141. The FDA has approved it’s use for ladies with hypoactive sexual desire. It also works for men.

          Hammock Answered on September 24, 2020.

          I don’t know what you mean here.

          The FDA is not a trusted entity to me but be more specific on your info.

          on September 25, 2020.
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            To be honest, I’m very sceptical of the value of supplements.

            If you’ve got a good diet, then you’ll be getting enough nutrients and won’t really benefit from supplements – many of these things are water soluble and the excess is filtered by the kidneys so you’re just paying for expensive urine.

            I’d be looking at the amount of fresh fruit and vegetables in the diet, along with some meat and dairy.

            Even if supplements are necessary, we can’t possibly advise without knowing what her diet is like. For instance, dietary deficiencies are more likely in vegetarians and vegans, because they’re not getting the vitamins and minerals found in meat and dairy from those sources and so need to ensure that they are getting them from plant based sources.

            On the floor Answered on September 24, 2020.

            Excellent advice. I’d throw proper exercise and good sleep habits in there too.

            I would also be more willing to look at FDA-approved things, as there is a lot of quack unregulated stuff out there. I work in this area (pharmaceuticals and medical devices), and the number of snake oil salesmen out there is insane. Even with FDA-approved things, I would talk with my doctor about it first, realizing, of course, that many GP’s aren’t probably equipped to advise in this area.


            on September 24, 2020.

            yeah, her habits lately are KETO diet, which I have doubts about.

            I also assume that recommendations on this or any site need to include FDA or some other “trusted” entity in order to not be seen as quackery or liability I suppose.

            For information to be used I like it to start with: “I tried this,” or “many of my friends and family tried this supplement.” “…and “it worked great because before using it this was happening and after using “x” supplement, no problems.”

            Instead we all say, “FDA approved!”

            OK but I still have my doubts on things and I have my reasons.

            My wife can benefit for a small supplement of calcium, C, B complex and E. Deficiencies cause numerous problems.

            Did I mention that I am a fitness nut? I take many supplements. Most are harmless but have their own toxicity levels so I limit them and most Sundays I take no supplements at all.

            By the way, a fruits and vegetables diet is good. It also requires you to travel to grocery store or get front door delivery (expensive) every few days. Our southern cal garden is very difficult in the excessive heat.


            on September 25, 2020.

            The trouble with “I tried this” is that it’s anecdote, which is the weakest type of medical evidence. Many people make the classic mistake of confusing correlation with causation – in other words, they say I did this and x happened so it must have caused x to happen, when it’s entirely possible that x would have happened anyway. It’s also hard to discount the placebo effect in such cases.

            Most useful is to look at randomised controlled trials with large numbers of participants. Unfortunately, there often aren’t very many of those because it’s actually really difficult to do the research thoroughly and control for all the different variables that might influence the results.

            However, it’s still vitally important to look at diet in detail before thinking about supplements. It might sound obvious, but if you’ve got a diet high in, say, vitamin C then you’re not really going to benefit from taking additional vitamin C. On the other hand, if your diet is deficient in vitamin C, then what else is it deficient in, and what changes need to be made?

            There’s some evidence that vitamin D supplementation is of benefit, especially during winter. Also, folate for women who are pregnant or trying to conceive. Beyond that, I’m really not convinced that supplements are worth the money.

            on September 25, 2020.

            all depends on what diet you have.

            I tried 7-keto a few years ago on my wife. Her leg numbness and pain (yeah both) were bad so I had her take this supplement and noticed her pain went away mostly.

            A few moths later I lost track of her supplementation habits and turns out she was taking them once or twice a week and for two weeks took none of the 7 keto. Her leg pain returned full force. I complained that she needed to take it and she said it probably doesn’t work. I was so mad because she improved with it. Regardless of placebo or not, she improved. Now its a constant fight to get her to take all her supplements. On the kitchen table in front of me is her supplements that I filled days ago. Wanna know why she’s sitting on the bed today and yesterday?

            Leg pain.

            7-keto affects hormones in the body. Any lack of or change in hormonal activity in the body results in many different effects for different people.

            on September 27, 2020.
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