Hello. I’ve been reading this q&a board for several months and would like to jump in and introduce myself. I have been married 8 years to my wonderful husband. We are both believers and are in a season of growing our marriage as well as growing in other areas of life (health, community, emotionally). We have three young kids that are 6, 4, and nearly 1.
We both come from very conservative backgrounds that have shaped our marriage bed experience. Neither of us got a real sex education and both of us managed to come to marriage without really any sexual history, including porn. We were missing a lot of information, especially about women’s’ sexuality. I had no idea how many resources are out there to help. Although we have been very active during these years, I realize now that our normal was really not the picture of intimacy that sex is supposed to be for a marriage. About 9 months ago I had an awakening that led me to confront tons of lies I believed about sexuality and marriage. I started to share my heart with my husband in many ways for the first time and I feel so proud how much our relationship has changed in a few months. During this same time period, I have also been struggling with a hormone issue since I had my last child. I’m currently taking medication for it. It has made arousal and orgasm very difficult for me and I’m really working on the health side as well as trying to learn as much as I can about female sexuality so I can make it past this physical hurdle.
Thanks for reading!
Welcome! Thanks for introducing yourself and your situation. I pray that your health concerns will be resolved soon. You’ve come to a good place and I look forward to learning together with you! How was it that you came to have an awakening? May God help you steward that in a positive way in your marriage and marriage bed!
Welcome! You already have the hardest part down: the mental attitude and awakening, how lucky your husband is!
Be kind to yourself though, that is a lot to deal with everyday, little children! Hormones are everything. I know men don’t quite understand but a woman’s hormones are involved even more than the mental, IMO. My awakening came from going on HRT. My libido sky rocketed, i found TMB forum and learned quite a few things, our marriage bed is completely different now. But hormones are like food. If you are not hungry or almost even sick to your stomach, you absolutely do not desire food and it is a chore to eat. But if you are famished, then you certainly desire food and enjoy it immensely.
I pray that you find balance for your body and that you are blessed!
Welcome! I’m looking forward to learning things you have learned on the journey.
Goodness, I understand where you’re coming from on the postpartum hormonal issues. After both my children, I really didn’t care whether I ever had sex again. It was so confusing. I do think it’s part of God’s design to protect our bodies from too many pregnancies in rapid succession. It does pass, and you will get your libido back, especially as you’re being proactive and getting medical help.
Glad to have you here!