Introverts – UNITE! (but don’t tell anybody)

    “To the extent that introverts feel the need to explain, apologize, or feel guilty about what works best for them, they feel alienated not only from society but from themselves.”

    The above is a quote from an article: (

    There is another quote from an architect that I thought must’ve been me. I also know my wife is probably even more so the “intelligent introvert” than I. My career path has forced me to adapt to the extroverts‘ world more than her’s has. It has not been a comfortable adaptation, but I’ve benefited from it, sometimes.

    @SeekingChange – I know you identify. Perhaps your DH would appreciate this article.

    On the floor Asked on June 6, 2020 in NON-SEXUAL MARRIAGE ISSUES.
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      I’m definitely more introverted than extroverted.

      However, I have been socialized by others and trained by myself to adapt to extroversion. I believe I have even developed the ability to turn my own personal dial in that direction in my work and social spheres when needed. I don’t feel that has been negative or unhealthy. I see it as part of my development and growth.  It has helped me to relate to more people in better ways.

      I know this experience is different for each person and some might argue that I must not be a true introvert! That might be accurate. (But then, are any of our personalities totally one thing and nothing of the other?)

      Under the stars Answered on June 6, 2020.
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        I always enjoy reading new things about introverts. There were several things that were said in this article that were really good that I could spin a conversation off of.

        So many people don’t really understand the core differences between introvert/extrovert. Introversion does NOT mean we are socially inept. I fit very well at greeting at our church, and leading the greeters, but recovery time is needed and takes a while.. There have been multiple people who are surprised to find I am an introvert from just seeing me at church. I liked how this article spoke about the difference between introversion and shyness.

        Under the stars Answered on June 6, 2020.
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          Wow. This is one of those articles that  make me say, “So THAT’S why I do that!” and “Oh my gosh, they are writing about ME!” I’ve always known I was an introvert, but felt I had some extrovert tendencies; I just never realized I had purposely (if unconsciously) cultivated those extrovert tendencies out of necessity. I do know that after I became involved in the Drama Club in HS (mostly back stage) I got a lot better at being socially acceptable because I could watch how others faced situations that were awkward for me, and create a character of a me that was good at that stuff, and then simply get into character. I HATE casual social situations with people I don’t know extremely well (and sometimes with people I do) but I learned how to be someone much more comfortable with other people, at least for a little while.

          It is interesting to read that I really do need the processing time. When I was a child, I would spend hours lying across my bed, staring out my window, just thinking. I used to think I was weird for having done that, then I began to wish I had the opportunity to do that again  because I really did feel over stimulated (without totally understanding the terminology) from working in a bustling noisy office and would get to where I just couldn’t function. I have been a homemaker for several years now, but I still feel a sense of having my circuits fried, almost like I’m still fixing damage done by being in my worst personal atmosphere for so long! Now I often have days (especially following those where I am what I call “on”) where all I want to do is sleep.

          Psychology is fascinating.

          Under the stars Answered on June 9, 2020.

          I have always looked on myself as an introvert but when I feel strongly about something I find I am quite vocal. For instance I seem to have a gift of evangelism and can do it in the street anywhere although more fruitful with a team. I am not very good at chit chat as my DW is. She is on the phone most of the day chatting and she calls herself an intovert? I think maybe introverts think a lot and can be productive in that. One of my sons is an extrovert and can just fall asleep in company if he is tired something I would never do. I have to be alone to do that. We need both in this world.

          on June 10, 2020.
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