Is anyone else just hopping up and down excitedly anticipating Valentine’s Day?

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    I often hear, “It’s just another day” or “we should celebrate our love every day”.

    Well, we should celebrate the Risen Christ every day, but we still get excited about Easter.

    I love Valentine’s day! It’s not even about expecting some huge gesture from DH; it’s just the idea of taking time out of the ordinary to focus on how great it is to be married to a great guy that I love.

    How do you all feel?

    Under the stars Asked on January 15, 2020 in Non-Sexual Romance .
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      @Twue_Wuv, there are some of us who look for any occasion to celebrate, so why not jump on an “official” day? We are also ones who call anytime without the kids “a date”…including going to the grocery store. 🙂 It’s all a matter of perspective and what you choose to focus on.

      Under the stars Answered on January 16, 2020.

      As long as both of you are fine with the “official” day that’s fine.  I feel bad for all the guys out there that feel enormous pressure on Valentine’s Day to deliver the perfect gift or set up the perfect date or they are in the dog house.  I don’t think it’s right.

      on January 16, 2020.
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        We celebrated it the first year we dated. We made the mistake of going out to eat, and the restaurant was packed. With both of us being introverts, it rather soured us on the experience. It would be nice to do something at home, but Dh isn’t much of a holiday guy. Even birthdays go largely overlooked. I wish that were different, but he seems disinclined to change. I’m still unsure why. Food for thought and discussion, I guess. I tend to focus on our children on Valentine’s Day, which is something my mother did for us. It always made me feel special, and I like to do the same for them.

        My pastor always says that he’s not much for greeting card holidays, but that he knows better than to not do something nice for his wife. It’s a good reminder to honor your spouse in the busyness of life, I think. And maybe this year is the year I will take a stand and reach out to my husband on this holiday.

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 16, 2020.
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          It’s a commercial holiday for companies to make money.  Make the special days for you and your spouse your own, not what a calendar and societal pressure tells you.  Birthdays and Anniversaries are the REAL valentine’s days, not the celebration of a Catholic saint who died on that day.

          On the floor Answered on January 16, 2020.

          agree. we never celebrated it because money is always allotted elsewhere.

          on January 16, 2020.

          One assumes that a man, or woman, will actually take the time to express his feeling and love to their spouse, in a different way than normal, without prompting.   We never had much money, and there’s many ways to express your love without spending money on “commercialism”.

          on January 17, 2020.
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            You’re dang right, Duchess !!!!!

            DW and I have been empty nesters bout two years now, having sent four children out into this crazy world.

            I have heard from some of my contemporaries that recently entered into empty nesterhood, if you will, that they unfortunately discover they then start having too much contact with a spouse that increasingly gets on their nerves.

            Not my story !  I am re-learning more and more each day and week what a terrific gal I have been blessed with all these years.  Our best years are still ahead !!!!!!!!!!!!

            Viva Valetine’s Day !!

            Queen bed Answered on January 16, 2020.

            This is one of those answers that makes me wish we had an option of liking more than once or “Love”ing an answer!!! You go, shortman!!

            on January 16, 2020.

            This is AWESOME!

            on January 16, 2020.
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              We love to have a special date night. Also, it is an opportunity to splurge a bit on chocolate! So, I’m getting excited!!

              Under the stars Answered on January 16, 2020.
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                I am planning to send a bunch of cheesy valentine’s cards…maybe even the kids school type since I wont be home. I like V-day ok. It isn’t my favorite but I like it.

                Fell out of ... Answered on January 16, 2020.
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                  We give each other cards on Valentine’s. We never go out to eat, as we are a long ways from town. Any special meals out are combined with a regular trip to town for necessities. DH is a sentimental person so he would never skip giving me a card. Lol I’ve learned that holiday cards are literally taken off the shelves the day after the holiday. I am thinking this year of making a special Valentine’s supper for DH and our children, but haven’t worked out the details yet.

                  Under the stars Answered on January 16, 2020.
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                    I knew there would be negative comments about Valentine’s Day, but it’s still sad, since this is a forum about love, marriage, and sex. We can criticize every holiday. Why celebrate Thanksgiving? We should be thankful every day. And then there’s the whole pilgrim/indigenous people controversy. I don’t particularly enjoy the pressure of making a huge starch, carb laden meal (which I barely eat) for 15-20 people, but I do it because others enjoy it, especially my DH.

                    If you are married to someone who appreciates the idea of Valentine’s Day, then don’t be a Negative Nellie.

                    On the floor Answered on January 16, 2020.
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                      I’ve always loved Valentine’s Day. As a kid, I was excited about addressing all those Valentines for my classmates and choosing what I thought was the best one in the box for whatever boy I secretly liked that year . . .LOL!

                      When we were first dating and younger married, we always went out for dinner. Then it got too hard with kids and not being able to get reservations on the weekend before or after. But DH would always get me something from Victoria’s Secret so that we could ‘celebrate’ at home. The past few years, we go to an annual charity event where we get dressed up. It’s still one of my favorite holidays because I’m not obligated to make a big meal for a crowd of relatives.

                      On the floor Answered on January 16, 2020.

                      YES! The special Valentine that more or less put it right out there–“I like you a lot!” And hoping against hope he sends you the special one out of his box, then reading all of them super carefully to see if “Be Cool, Valentine” could possibly mean, “You’re the girl I like!” ROFLOL!

                      on January 16, 2020.
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                        We tend to just do cards. Part of it is we both do try and make the other feel appreciated every day. Part of it is financial, once the kids got expensive (now college expenses for two of them) doing more for Valentine’s Day is further down the list of where we want to spend our discretionary funds.

                        That doesn’t mean I think the holiday is only for newer couples anything like that. It is wonderful to have days where you know you’re going to focus on showing appreciation to your spouse – or receiving appreciation!. Birthday’s, anniversaries. etc. are like that. Valentine’s Day can be wonderful as well. For us it just fills that role in a minor way, and not a major one.

                        Queen bed Answered on January 16, 2020.

                        I get that. Some seasons just don’t allow for as much frivolity, even if it is valuable frivolity.

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