Is it time to say good bye?

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    Are my post offensive?

    Are my question inappropriate for this blog?

    Should I stop posting?

    Should I leave?

     

    Queen bed Asked on July 11, 2019 in Goodbye.
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      If anyone feels that a poster has stepped over a line, please PM me about it rather than calling them out and saying so on the boards.  As TMB Czar, it’s my job (along with other moderators) to deal with such things.  The set up of the new boards lends itself to much less moderation than in the past, but there are still “watchers” here who are tasked with helping keep the boards running smoothly.

      Thank you.

      Dale

      TMB Board Czar

      California King Answered on July 12, 2019.
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        I may be wrong, but it does seem as though your posts aren’t inspired by a desire to learn, or share. They don’t appear to have any rhyme or reason to them, just a desire to be titillated with people’s sexual experiences, and details about genitals.

        I get a weird vibe. But perhaps I’m in the minority.

        Queen bed Answered on July 11, 2019.

        I agree. Borderline weird.  Seems voyeuristic to me.  The one post would have been censored or grounds for removal on the old board.

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          @Sam, here is my advice as a sister in Christ.   You have said you are here to learn, and there is no reason for me to not give you the benefit of the doubt, and I personally believe all of us here should give this benefit of the doubt.  I think this a great opportunity to for you to learn.  As you may see, there are different levels of sensibilities, some find things off, others have no problem.

          My advice, change how you ask your questions.  Share a little more of why you are asking and why you want to know.  What made a particular question come to your mind?  That will give others, especially those who have questioned your intent, a little more understanding of where you are coming from.  If you want a fellow brother to share an opinion on how a particular question is asked and to see if there is a way that might seem less offensive, run your question by them first via PM.  You can see several guys on here who have not been offended and who may be willing to walk beside you as you learn.

          Of course, you can always discard this and continue as you have, or not continue at all…it really is your choice.

           

          Under the stars Answered on July 11, 2019.
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            If you go or stay its your choice.  But don’t be surprised by those who are put off by by your titillating way of stating your questions.

            On the floor Answered on July 11, 2019.
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              I would suggest, Sam, placing context in your questions.

              For example, your thread about seeing genitals before marriage caught me off-guard and bothered me.  If you would have made a context on why you were asking this question would have alleviated any misunderstanding.

              Context matter.

               

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              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 11, 2019.

              Let’s eat, Grandma! vs. Let’s eat Grandma! (I laughed so hard at that poster I had to hold my sutures!)

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                Hi Sam,

                Personally, I don’t think your posts are offensive or that you have to leave.
                This place is a safe place for people to ask questions about sex in a Christian environment.

                I do not feel you’ve done anything wrong here.

                -Eye Above The Storm

                Queen bed Answered on July 11, 2019.

                FWIW, me neither.  I don’t know what this is about but nothing I’ve read of Sam’s has struck me as inappropriate for this board.

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                  I don’t have any problem with your participation here. 

                  Sometimes I feel like there might be a cultural gap here.  What nationality are you? 

                  On the floor Answered on July 11, 2019.

                  All are allowed! Please don’t feel that you’re somehow not welcome here. Knowing cultural origin helps others answer questions with this in mind and we can be more sensitive to how that shapes the intent behind the question. Plus, others are exposed to a perspective that is different than their own that can help them grow in understanding. “Us” and “them” mentalities historically lead to bad outcomes. We are all humans created by God who loves us and we should never lose sight of that!

                  on July 12, 2019.
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                    I have assumed a cultural gap as well.

                    These new boards are set up to ask questions, with far less rules than the old TMB. Which you are doing. I think some of us old-timers carry over the old standards.

                    I appreciate the guys who have shared some concern, because I see a protective nature in them. What would it say of them to be concerned and then stand by silently?

                    Just as you have the right to ask certain questions, every single one of us has the choice on whether we answer them or not. I have opted to answer some, and not to answer ones I am uncomfortable with, for different reasons.

                    Under the stars Answered on July 11, 2019.
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                      Hi Sam,

                      No offense taken here. I hope you’ll remain involved.

                      Fell out of ... Answered on July 11, 2019.
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                        Hi Sam,

                        Like others, I have assumed a cultural gap and possibly a very restrictive, ultra-conservative church background. I hope you will stick around and let us know more about you.

                        Under the stars Answered on July 11, 2019.
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