What interests females in pornography?
It is common knowledge that females as a group are not typically aroused visually. That being the case what interests females in pornography? I did a little research and polls here and on Psychology Today indicates that a large majority of women watch it.
Nothing specific in porn really interests me but i guess it would be the sex act itself. i am very very visual, i don’t know if that is really particularly true about women not being visual, it may be that we aren’t not as quickly sexually aroused when looking at a male form as men are when looking at women but i do not know.
I know that i appreciate men’s bodies and have to look away when i want to do that second glance but i don’t compartmentalize their bodies or try to mentally undress them or imagine what they look like naked as i’ve heard that men do to women.
In the past, when Hubby and I have “peeked” at porn as a way to be naughty and spice things up that night, the thing that aroused me is the idea of sex. My brains says, “Hey, those people are having sex, that looks fun, I want to do that too!” and then it sends the signals to the body parts. I’m sure some of it is the visual too, but it’s not like I fantasize about any of the people or their parts at all. Ever have a a book where there was a picture with a transparent overlay that totally changed the picture even though the basic structure was still there? It’s kind of like I have a transparent overlay of me and Hubby that falls over every sex act I see and all I see is us doing that, not the people underneath.
There are different things that fall under pornography, by definition it is “sexually explicit videos, photographs, writings, or the like, whose purpose is to elicit sexual arousal.” Since you mention the visual and watching, I am guessing you are speaking more of the videos or photographs.
Even if you don’t necessarily find something pleasing, your brain and body will often react naturally and get aroused, preparing itself for sex. For women who might struggle with desiring sex, having that arousal response seems to be helpful. It can make something you kind of dread (sex), or not desire at the time, become something you want or are okay with.
I remember reading a few years ago that a difference between men and women, and it is used in advertisement, is that the man looks at the women and imagines that she wants him. The woman also looks at the women and imagines herself in her place. That is why things targeted towards men, the woman is making direct eye contact with the camera. When it’s targeted towards women, the woman is looking away. I think that points out the relational draw that woman has.
To qualify, I don’t know about some of the more bizarre and deviant porn that people get tied up in, but at least with the — for lack of a better word — more tame pornography (portrayals of consensual nude scenes, etc.):
I have heard that women sometimes turn to it when lonely; if they are divorced, widowed, etc., and do not have a partner anymore, then it can be something that reminds them / helps them keep alive their memories of intimacy.
I think this is the same reason why so many widowed Grandma’s read those racy harlequin romance novels.
I can think of several women in my family who enjoy watching movies that have male/female nude bedroom scenes, but more romantic than deviant. I try to leave the room whenever we are visiting them cause I consider it porn, but yes, I would say it’s usually women who are lonely and aren’t in a relationship (anymore). I tend not to judge them since they’re going through a lot already. But it makes me uncomfortable. As a man, I got into porn for similar reasons (lonely) but I feel that it really set me up for false beliefs about women and sex.
It would be interesting to know if porn causes unmarried women who use it similar problems down the line (when they marry)…