I took the quiz and it said Desire. And that makes sense a bit.
I figure if I had to rank them:
Desire – I want to know she wants me.
Cat and Mouse – The teasing, the build-up.
(followed closely by) Visual – To me, this is the bridge of cat and mouse and desire.
Quoting the OP “Mental: if you’re not connected mentally first, physical is hardly an option.”
Initially yes, I was just thinking how a husband and wife are “clicking”, then they are connected mentally. But I also see the other aspect you bring up…unfortunately, it’s a negative “trigger” in and of itself…but for the sake of this post, I’d like to bring it up. I was once waaaay too interested in another woman, and the attraction to her was exactly what you stated above. The conversations we’d have intellectually (non-sexual) is was attracted us to each other, and what sadly cause us to end up in an adulterous relationship for 2 and a half years…We could quite literally talk for hours about stuff.
Unfortunately, my wife and I don’t have that. Not that she isn’t intelligent…but the same level of intellectual conversations just don’t happen; it’s just not in her make-up.
Mine was desire, and it was no surprise. I am practically begging at this point for DH to talk to me during sex and express his desire and attraction to me while we are having sex. That said, we had so many years of me gatekeeping and him feeling so shut down that I know this is part of the healing and growing for him to get to this place. I have my own places I’m pushing through to heal and come to something different.
I didn’t take the quiz because I’m just not up for that many (even little) decisions at this time. Using a broad stroke, I think I respond best to being ardently desired, expressed through some cat-and-mouse, although it needs to be the persistent, inexorable kind of cat like a tiger, and it all needs to spring from a mental and emotional connection.
My favorite scenario is when DH and I are spending time together really exploring something intellectually/creatively (dissecting a work of fiction or plotting a new one, or theorizing about ghosts, supernatural phenomena, and the nature of time as an artificial construct)…(for example) when I notice he is looking at and touching me more and more and I am feeling all soft and squishy inside then I pretend to resist while he seduces me into allowing him to have his way with me. Although, having written that, it occurs to me that I could also demonstrate to him just how sexy he is to me when he is explaining physics concepts to me by demonstrating my understanding of friction and momentum.