Living out your wedding vows
We have prized our wedding vows (we wrote them for each other) incorporating the love, romance, and reality embedded in the traditional Christian wedding vow . . .
I, ___, take you, ___, to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.”
Share how your vows have kept you faithful, helped you persevere, etc.
Our vows have been a strong reminder for me of the nature of the marriage covenant that DW and I entered before God and many witnesses.
In addition, our wedding anniversary is a regular reminder of the enduring commitment we have made.
And each time I look at my wedding ring, I’m reminded of the promises we made to each other.
Also, when I attend a wedding, it is always an opportunity to reaffirm the vows I made to DW.
Honestly, I have thought very little of my wedding vows, and whether right or wrong, those aren’t the vows that have kept me in my marriage.
This is the vow that has kept me committed….
I believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the Living God. In that vow, He became my Lord and Savior, and I surrendered my life to Him, and my will is no longer my own. In that, my wedding vows are covered.
Our pastor gave us a book of standard ceremonies to choose from and–being me–I couldn’t just pick one, I copied them all, then cut and pasted (with actual scissors and glue; this was before almost everything was on computer and also before writing personal vows was so common) until I got it to say exactly what I liked. We had two pastors, the one serving our church at the time who had given me the book and DH’s cousin. When we gave the cousin my Franken-ceremony, he seemed taken aback that I had spelled everything out so specifically and asked couldn’t he add a personal message too. (Of course we said yes.) I was very uncomfortable and felt kinda weird about what I had done, BUT, being a logophile and a wordsmith I just couldn’t resist making our ceremony worded exactly the way it sounded best and most meaningful to me. (DH’s response, of course, was, “Sounds good.”)
Anyway, although I have not done it in a while, I have re-read the ceremony many times because it is absolutely very meaningful to me.
(Now I feel less embarrassed about being so micro-managing!)