Living out your wedding vows

    We have prized our wedding vows (we wrote them for each other) incorporating the love, romance, and reality embedded in the traditional Christian wedding vow . . .

    I, ___, take you, ___, to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.”

    Share how your vows have kept you faithful, helped you persevere, etc.

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on January 24, 2020 in Marriage Roles, Headship/Submission, Unsaved .
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      Our vows have been a strong reminder for me of the nature of the marriage covenant that DW and I entered before God and many witnesses.

      In addition, our wedding anniversary is a regular reminder of the enduring commitment we have made.

      And each time I look at my wedding ring, I’m reminded of the promises we made to each other.

      Also, when I attend a wedding, it is always an opportunity to reaffirm the vows I made to DW.

      Under the stars Answered on January 24, 2020.
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        Honestly, I have thought very little of my wedding vows, and whether right or wrong, those aren’t the vows that have kept me in my marriage.

        This is the vow that has kept me committed….

        I believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the Living God.  In that vow, He became my Lord and Savior, and I surrendered my life to Him, and my will is no longer my own. In that, my wedding vows are covered.

        Under the stars Answered on January 24, 2020.

        I think there is something of key importance here.  The easiest way to stay on the right path with our spouse is to stay rooted in Him.  This doesn’t take away from the vows necessarily, but I think goes along side them to sustain.

        A long time ago someone here probably said this, or I read it somewhere, but I really thought there was some value in it.  Two people, no matter how different, or even if they are not as evenly yoked as they could be, if they both put their eyes upon Jesus, want to obey and please Him, then I believe that they will be able to build something good with each other.

        on January 24, 2020.
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          Our pastor gave us a book of standard ceremonies to choose from and–being me–I couldn’t just pick one, I copied them all, then cut and pasted (with actual scissors and glue; this was before almost everything was on computer and also before writing personal vows was so common) until I got it to say exactly what I liked. We had two pastors, the one serving our church at the time who had given me the book and DH’s cousin. When we gave the cousin my Franken-ceremony, he seemed taken aback that I had spelled everything out so specifically and asked couldn’t he add a personal message too. (Of course we said yes.) I was very uncomfortable and felt kinda weird about what I had done, BUT, being a logophile and a wordsmith I just couldn’t resist making our ceremony worded exactly the way it sounded best and most meaningful to me. (DH’s response, of course, was, “Sounds good.”)

          Anyway, although I have not done it in a while, I have re-read the ceremony many times because it is absolutely very meaningful to me.

          (Now I feel less embarrassed about being so micro-managing!)

          Under the stars Answered on January 25, 2020.
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            @Duchess, our ceremony was well-scripted by Mrs. Youngbear, as well. We memorized our personalized vows and sang to each other. The vows and words of the song (Cherish the Treasure) are kept deep in our hearts and memories.

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 25, 2020.
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