Male chastity device

    Has any couples played with those penis cages that are sold as a bit of a fun novelty?

    I am quite curious and wondered about them. You can get them in silicone now and this interests me, but… I am wondering if there is anything wrong about this whole thing?

    If anyone has played with these, how have you introduced it?


    Just wondering… Has there been any more updates on this topic? Have any other couples introduced this for a bit of fun?

    Please understand that I am not into using chastity play to degrade or disrespect a person. When I talk about chastity play and chastity cages for men, I am merely talking about just some harmless “naughty” fun…

    It would be interesting to see if anyone is into it.

    Sadly… When I try and do some research on the internet, there is just trash about dominatrix’s and making the man suffer etc. Ugh…

    on February 24, 2020.
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      I can’t see any reason why a husband and wife couldn’t enjoy a cage. I find the idea rather intriguing, but they don’t look very comfortable for anything more than short term play. Maybe the silicone is the answer for that. If you get one, I’d be interested in know how it stacks up, for comfort and wearability.

      Queen bed Answered on June 20, 2019.

      I have tried out a few devices so far and have the following comments –

      Silicone – Ok, but really depends on the type

      Plastic – Seems to be my preference so far

      Metal – Nah, too heavy as in like 8oz heavy

      on March 31, 2020.
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        We have talked about trying one, I would give it a try.  I don’t think they all hurt and are extremely painful etc.


        I would be let out for “good behavior” or doing something nice for the wife, maybe a massage or some house work. I think for sex play, they could be fun to try.

        On the floor Answered on June 14, 2019.

        I ordered one (a silicone one) that was cheap and will see how it goes.

        I haven’t told the wife and am not sure what her reaction would be. Maybe I just have it on one day and surprise her?

        on June 14, 2019.
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          We have one that we use from time to time just for sexual fun.

          Queen bed Answered on June 14, 2019.

          So, do you have any “rules” for wearing it or being released? Does your wife enjoy it?

          on June 17, 2019.

          She really enjoys it. It’s more about her controlling when I can orgasm and when she “chooses” to release me. I sometimes have to earn my release, lol.

          on June 25, 2019.

          Sounds like a fun activity… I think it is just another way to have fun, just another toy… Nothing sinister…

          on March 31, 2020.
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            I have read some about male chastity. I think it takes a special wife to want to do it, but of those that did try it with their husband, I think they find it a positive experience.  I think it would be fun to try.

            On the floor Answered on June 15, 2019.
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              I think the mental framework surrounding male chastity is that the wife assumes more of the dominant role, whereas the man becomes more submissive, hence the reason why he is locked up. Sometimes the wife can even hold (and hide) the key. When we’ve tried it, my wife has sent me a very revealing photo of herself but, being in a cage, I can’t do anything about it.  In general, the longer you wear it, the more intense the release when you finally have sex.

              Queen bed Answered on June 15, 2019.

              Or… Maybe you could lock yourself up and be in control of her not being able to access? I have no idea, but that came to mind…

              I have no idea on how I would introduce it.

              It would be interesting to know what wives think of the whole concept. Whether they think it is a fun thing, or whether it it just some stupid thing.

              on June 15, 2019.
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                My husband and I have discussed a chastity device before but we don’t own one. Maybe it will make my next online order 🙂

                Queen bed Answered on June 25, 2019.
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                  I enjoy male chastity as foreplay greatly.  My DW has found some joy in it with regard to keeping me locked until she is well lubricated from OS prior to unlocking me for the main event of the evening (PIV).  I have tried six different cages and they all have pros and cons (none are 5 stars in all categories).
                  The metal cages are the most comfortable to wear (with some silicon lube) and can be worn overnight but can be bulky under clothing if worn in public.  They can be a major pinch problem when installing so my DW has me install it (which takes some of the fun out…but beats an injury in that part of my body 🙂 )
                  The plastic cages are the least visible under clothing but chaff more than the metal cages…so lots of silicon lube is needed…haven’t found them comfortable for more than a few hours lock up time.
                  I found the silicon one to be a joke… required lots of lube but didn’t really stay on… very easy to pull off even when locked…so really not much of a chastity device.
                  We do use a lock that has round edges so my wife doesn’t get poked when her body parts are touching the cage.

                  Twin bed Answered on September 3, 2019.

                  Are you able to share what brands you found good for you?

                  on March 31, 2020.
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                    Hi Ron,

                    I know. I was totally caught off guard when the conversation came up . It was after our women’s formal group study.  Of course, it is easier for women to discuss these things with other women. Especially, in a group studying headship and submission.  We were discussing the scope and extent of submission.

                    The thought is that in a Christian marriage where the man is exercising headship, there is nothing wrong with him willing giving up and his wife willingly accepting some control in the bedroom department. For their husbands and mine, the fact that there is one place where they can be totally vulnerable and open, where they can say to us, I’m yours in any way you want; your timing, your desires and your pleasure first. Without wives sometimes feeling like sex was just a transaction (I’m doing this for you so that I can have an orgasm).

                    I agree with your friend at church. Not only is there more kissing, hugging, and cuddling, there are massages, foot, full body, and erotic. There is a sweetness and tenderness that surpasses anything we have experienced before Male Chastity. There are times when after a stressful day, my husband will offer to run a bath for me, massage me, and if I wish, give me an orgasm and letting me drift off to sleep totally satisfied, without expecting anything in return. You can’t imagine how that makes a woman feel.

                    For us, Male Chastity and the device that is worn by our husbands is what has brought about these incredible changes. We still pamper them and take care of them and please them in ways that they tell us is better than anything ever before. That is why they wouldn’t want to go back to the way things were before. Holding the key to their cage,  for us and for them, really is holding the key to their heart. It is amazing, for us and for them.


                    Twin bed Answered on January 18, 2020.

                    Thanks for sharing!

                    on March 31, 2020.
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                      So is the idea behind a male chastity device for a woman to control when her husband is allowed to orgasm? Is it a fun part of tease and denial? We’ve never explored this before but I do find the thread fascinating.

                      Queen bed Answered on September 11, 2019.

                      Yes, it is for the wife to control when and how often he orgasms and it takes away his ability to play on his on. It is tease and denial. We have talked about trying it, but wife is little reserved. I think some women don’t like to be in control and dominating when it comes to sex, but some do. I would love to try it.

                      on September 12, 2019.

                      I think you are right… Some women don’t like to be in control. In my opinion, it is just light hearted fun, a novelty and a way to be a bit kinky. I haven’t introduced male chastity yet, but plan to give it a try.

                      In my mind, I kind of see it playing out like this… We have our fun together, then she locks me up for the day and maybe a few teasing texts throughout the day and some more fun that night. That’s about it and I think this is pretty hot stuff.

                      To the women… Is having fun with a penis cage all that different to having some fun with kegal balls (ben wa balls)?

                      on November 11, 2019.
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                        I am with Raymond on this.  There are a lot of lines being crossed that I don’t think should be.  Neither spouse should be treated like this (irregardless of whether they like it or not in my opinion).

                        On the floor Answered on January 25, 2020.

                        I think it would be great to hear why you have this opinion…

                        You used the words “treated this way”… Do you feel that it is potentially an activity that is forced on somebody? I have done some research on the topic and for the most part, it is a fantasy of men to be locked up for some fun and it is usually the man that brings it up with their spouse (according to the information I have read).

                        I think for me, the bottom line is that as long as both husband and wife are on board with it, it can be a lot of fun. I read a quote today about it and it went along the lines of wearing a chastity device is a constant reminder that I am kept for her. I liked that…

                        on March 31, 2020.
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