Male chastity device

    Has any couples played with those penis cages that are sold as a bit of a fun novelty?

    I am quite curious and wondered about them. You can get them in silicone now and this interests me, but… I am wondering if there is anything wrong about this whole thing?

    If anyone has played with these, how have you introduced it?


    Just wondering… Has there been any more updates on this topic? Have any other couples introduced this for a bit of fun?

    Please understand that I am not into using chastity play to degrade or disrespect a person. When I talk about chastity play and chastity cages for men, I am merely talking about just some harmless “naughty” fun…

    It would be interesting to see if anyone is into it.

    Sadly… When I try and do some research on the internet, there is just trash about dominatrix’s and making the man suffer etc. Ugh…

    on February 24, 2020.
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      They hurt. A lot. It’s just not natural to out your penis inside of one of those things.

      Let me try to describe the feeling. While you’re flacid, tie some dental floss tightly around your penis. Then, get an erection. If that feeling turns you on, go ahead. But for me, it’s ow-ow-ow-ow.

      Don’t ask me why chastity devices hurt so much. It doesn’t look like it should. But it does.

      I’ve never tried silicone but I’d imagine there’s still chafing.

      Twin bed Answered on June 13, 2019.

      Thanks for sharing. I guess you have tried them out before? I ended up ordering the silicone one (it was pretty cheap and if I throw it away, so be it). The curiosity has me intrigued, but I wanted to make sure this kind of thing wasn’t wrong.

      on June 13, 2019.
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        Never tried one. Not that interested. But, I agree, the silicone model might not be so bad.

        Under the stars Answered on June 14, 2019.
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          I’m keen to give it a try. I have no idea on how I would introduce it to my wife and I’m not sure what her reaction would be either. It would be my hope that she finds it amusing and a bit of fun.
          It would be interesting to get a female’s opinion on this…

          Twin bed Answered on June 14, 2019.
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            I saw you mentioned wanting to know wives opinions. I hadn’t answered because I have no experience in this area….and I have no interest in exploring something like this. There is something in me that is uneasy and very resistant to go anywhere near me being in a dominant role and my husband being in a submissive role….and that is how I view a male chastity belt, along with other things, like pegging. That is a total turn off for me personally. But, if you guys have fun with it, enjoy.

            Under the stars Answered on June 18, 2019.

            Horses for courses I guess? It is only a bit of harmless fun really and not really anything serious…

            Pegging? I have no idea on what that is and to be honest… I think I would rather not know.

            on June 19, 2019.
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              I have tried out the silicon type cage and it’s ok, but… They are a bit too flexible and can be hard to put on (too fiddly).

              Does anyone have any experience with solid plastic types? I am a bit hesitant to try metal. Any thoughts on this?


              Twin bed Answered on November 11, 2019.

              I would love to try it too. Wife doesn’t really understand it though, but said she would if I really wanted to. I think it could add a lot of fun if done correctly.

              on November 12, 2019.

              I think that is great that she is open to it… I guess there is a fine line if the woman just says no and you would never want to make an issue out of it…

              on November 13, 2019.
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                It frightens me as I have read about Female Led Marriages where it is used. I would say don’t play with fire. You might get burned  or at least be aware of being controlled in the wrong way if you are going to play.

                Twin bed Answered on November 13, 2019.

                I am pretty secure in who I am and the woman that I married. I know that she would not exhibit this kind of control that you are fearful of.

                I appreciate your concern and kind of understand, but this really is just some light hearted fun… To flip the coin, would you find it adventurous and kinky to have your wife insert a dildo and go out on a date with you? Kind of kinky and fun right? To me, a bit of chastity play is not that big a deal.


                on November 13, 2019.
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                  My husband and I are younger than many here I would imagine. I first found out about male chastity from older women in our women’s group at church. It came up privately after a study about submission. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing but there are about six women who practice this with their husbands. Two men are elders and one is a deacon. I never thought I would try it or that my husband would go for it but after many conversations and coaching from the ladies, I was absolutely intrigued by what it did for their relationships. I was convinced to try it and was able to gradually introduce it to my husband – first, as a fun, adventurous play thing. They seemed sure that it would become more but I wasn’t sure. It took some time and effort but we have been using a cage for over two years now. I can only say that not only is it fun, it has transformed our relationship. My husband has never been so loving, attentive, and helpful. He is the head of our home in everything. But in the bedroom, we have agreed that I am in control and it is amazing for both of us. I control how often he can orgasm and he has been wearing the cage 24/7 for about 16 months. With a little effort and teasing on my part, he is always in the mood and always willing to please me in bed even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm for him. He never knows when I will decide to unlock the cage give him an orgasm and it drives him wild with desire. It’s hard to imagine but the ladies were exactly right in everything they told me. Using a cage and having control of his penis and orgasms has been incredible for us and I would recommend it for any couples willing to be a little adventurous and just give it a try. You may find that it transforms your sex lives as well. I can’t imagine ever going back to before we started with male chastity. I think many women, like me, who cannot even conceive of trying this would be amazed and how much it will make the relationship better for them and their husbands.

                  Twin bed Answered on January 17, 2020.

                  That is awesome! I can’t believe the ladies at your church talked about it though.  I have talked with one male where him and his wife practiced this and he said the same thing you did, he didn’t see them ever going back to the way things were. He said they actually kiss, hug and snuggle way more than they did before and feel a lot closer.

                  I would love to try it for a sex game for short times.

                  on January 18, 2020.

                  I personally think that there is nothing wrong with the chastity devices as long as it is consensual and fun for both husband and wife. The latest discussions are very interesting and I thank you for being willing to share.

                  One thing I did want to point out though… I have read some articles that wearing a male chastity device long term (as in 24/7 for long  term) can cause some issues. It might be worth looking into this.

                  Can anyone share what experience they have with certain types of cages? Comfort and practicality would be good.

                  on January 20, 2020.
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                    Sounds too much like a female led marriage to me which isn’t scriptural but that’s just me.

                    Twin bed Answered on January 23, 2020.
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                      That would be an interesting discussion with my DW.  It sounds like you either really like it or not at all, nothing in the middle. For those who enjoy it, would you say then that you are more comfortable with other forms of bondage or is it that you feel more engaged through cuddling, kissing, etc.?

                      King bed Answered on March 16, 2020.
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                        I think it speaks of domination by the wife. I don’t want to be in a female led marriage like those one can read about.  I can understand creative fun but I would never go to work with one or go out of the house with it. The man is the head of the house after all.

                        Twin bed Answered on October 14, 2019.

                        I can understand your point of view, but I kind of feel that it doesn’t really tie into the headship of the family stuff. Just light hearted fun…

                        on November 11, 2019.
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