Does anyone know of a good commercially available massage oil.
DW needs a deep theraputic massage to her hip and thigh pretty regularly. I have always used coconut oil because it is very slick, which makes it easier for me to perform the massage. She bought some product that was advertised as a massage oil, but i found it was not very slippery. I have enough arthritis in my hands that it can range anywhere from uncomfortable to painful for me to perform a massage that helps her. I don’t mind that, but I have found the slicker the oil, the more I can use the side and heel of my hand effectively, and less pressure on my fingers.
The coconut oil works well for both of us, but she has voiced objections that are pretty baseless, but hard to get around. She is just reluctant to use it and I think she declines therapy when she needs it because of that. I think she would be more receptive when I offer if I could find something that she was more comfortable with.
For my benefit it would need to be really slippery, and I think she would be more welcoming to a nice scent.
I have developed my own mixes with essential oils. Different carrier oils will give varying results. I like liquid coconut, sometimes sweet almond but it rubs in quicker. Add around 12 drops essential oil per ounce of carrier oil. Next just learn about benefits of each oil and which oils blend well.
I will second MELT massage oil. You can buy it from Amazon. It’s natural, made from almonds. Wife was a coconut oil fan for intimate activities and after I bought MELT oil two years ago, we’ve never went back. Let’s just say that it’s good for some other uses that the dear wife and I enjoy so you can move from one activity to another…OR just start there. 😀
On the occasions when I’ve needed to rub down my husband, I’ve just used olive oil. Hey, it has been used as a ‘beauty’ treatment for thousands of years, right? I like that it is lighter than coconut oil, and it feels better in my hands.
From a massage perspective, have you studied ways to give massage, that don’t involve heavy use of the hands? I need massage therapy for my hip and leg (I’ve got joint impingement and nerve damage), and the gal who takes care of me tends to use her forearms and the heels of her palms. Now that I think about it, the only time when she really uses her digits, it’s during the spreading of massage lotion, and when she touches my face.
The lady that has given me a handful of massages over the years, each one clearing up completely some health/pain issue I had at the time, used Tiger Balm. It’s not extremely slippery, but I think she mixed it with a little baby oil or another of the oils recommended here. The therapeutic properties of the Tiger Balm would be good for both her muscles and your hands. Something else she always told me was to be sure to drink lots of water after a massage, because the massage releases toxins from the muscles into the blood and they need to be flushed away before they can be reabsorbed. I suspect the same is true for your hands as they do the work of massage.
You might also try using some objects like tennis balls, rolled up towels, etc. to penetrate deep. DH and I have both been advised to use tennis balls on various pains by our doctor and PTs. It’s very effective. Your wife can even start with that before your massage and put it under her (depending on where her pains are) and use her own body weight to put pressure deep. (I used to put one under my shoulder blade and lie on it until it had pressed the knots out enough to rub. It can hurt, but it’s the good kind of pain.
Kudos to you for being so giving in this regard! My DH tries, bless his heart, but too often mistakes bone for muscle and tries to work out the “knot” he thinks it is. Very painful! It’s hard to relax into it when you are just sure the one giving the massage is going to cause mucho pain any minute!! ;D