Men, does your wife let you see her naked?

    I’m talking about in TMB and without reservation.  For example, during a lot of our marriage we had sex under the covers pretty much or lights OFF.  I don’t know why, just became a habit and i was somewhat overweight and embarrassed.  FF to now, i have lost weight and  overcome SOME of the body images (still a woman…though 🙁 )  and now let my husband look at everything.

    Reason i ask is i was the typical woman in that i was embarrassed about my vulva  and even thought it was bordering on ugly. I do not know why men adore their penises and a good chunk of women do not like the look of their vulvas.  I honestly don’t know what men truly think of them either (aesthetically) but i have decided not to let that interfere with our intimacy.  (i still do not think it’s pretty or attractive in any way but it definitely is erotic).

    No. Very rare to see her nude. I want to see her nude even without sex but yeah she’s self conscious about all of her.

    on April 21, 2020.
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      Yes. All the time. But she doesn’t prance around or anything. Usually in or out of the shower or putting on a bra.
      We have sex with the lights on every time. Dark is abnormal for us. She’s got some mama skin but I assure her it’s beautiful because my babies were in there and I hope she’s never embarrassed.

      As for me, I’m a little embarrassed at my 40 gut but I’m okay everywhere else. I’m not ashamed of my endowment though. I’ve always had a little bit of exhibitionism in me, even when it was NOT appropriate. So to see my wife’s eyes go down there and smile is the highlight of my day.

      Fell out of ... Answered on April 20, 2020.

      Oh and what do we think about vulvas? They’re the most beautiful place on earth.
      I say “place” because when Song of Solomon calls it our garden, it’s so true. I’m happy there.
      I could just lay my head between her legs and never want to leave.

      But that’s if my wife didn’t think I was a weirdo.

      on April 20, 2020.
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        Yes. We shower together, she sleeps naked, and has no problem with me looking at h er. I also am not afraid to show her my naked body.

        I make sure to tell my wife frequently that after 29 years of marriage she still turns me on. I agree with PPK above that the vulva is the most beautiful place on earth, and I let my wife know that every time we ML.

        On the floor Answered on April 21, 2020.
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          Yes, she does! And I am so thankful to God and to her for that! I have enjoyed gazing at her since our wedding day night.

          For the first while she was a bit self conscious about me looking at her vulva. But I kept on complimenting her on how great it looked. Finally when she allowed me to do OS for her, she became totally free with me enjoying her vulva more fully and examining every part of it!

          She never hides any part from me, is very free to undress in front of me, shower together, flash me, etc. With me she is very confident in her own body! 😀

          Under the stars Answered on April 21, 2020.
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            Yes she does. I would say she is shy about some aspects of her body and proud of other aspects. She has shared with me certain parts she thinks are sexy and certain parts she wished looked different.

            In general, I try to praise and appreciate her as much and as often I can, not just the obvious parts but also the parts that she doesn’t feel are attractive. I think women need that. It makes them more confident when they feel appreciated by their husbands. It also really helps them to open up and flourish in the marriage bed.

            And a note to husbands: do your marriage a favor and don’t comment on other women’s physical allure, when watching a movie or walking at the mall or anything else. Focus all those compliments on your wife instead and watch her self-confidence levels flourish.

            Queen bed Answered on April 20, 2020.

            Thank you for responding! I should have added in the post, men do you feel the same way about your body?  Are you embarrassed to let your wife see you in all your glory or is this mainly a female thing?

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              it has taken some time but the answer is yes, mostly, well she has some reservations but they are minor.  When we first married she was very shy and reserved.  I thought that it was her background.  I had no reservations as a former athlete in college.  Not that they were nude athletics or anything, but showering daily with a group of guys around seems to remove any reservation.

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on April 20, 2020.
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                Yes, we see each other naked daily, married 30 years. We have been doing that for many years. Men like to look and appreciate their wife, it doesn’t matter to me if she is few pounds over weight etc. And I love her vulva just like it is. The actual physical appearance isn’t important to me, but what it is attached to is important, her!

                On the floor Answered on April 21, 2020.

                Oh, i never thought of it that way, it doesn’t really matter if my husband doesn’t find it actually beautiful (he has never said that).

                on April 21, 2020.
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                  Something I’ve noticed with a few of these couples is that they probably need counseling.
                  That’s not me saying their marriage is falling apart or that one spouse is crazy.
                  I think about marriage counseling like a chiropractor. When something traumatic happens you go to the chiropractor a lot! But as your spine gets straighter you go from twice a week to once a week, to every other week, to every month, and maybe longer after that.
                  People who are pain free still go to make sure any adjustments required are done to keep it that way.
                  Long story short: I believe even healthy couples need a marriage counselor.
                  Y’all got some L4’s out of line.

                  Fell out of ... Answered on April 21, 2020.
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                    Completely agree PPK. I believe it’s important for couples to have annual checkups…or maybe annual tuneups. Something where things can be evaluated and dark relational issues can be brought to the light. Some might be able to be done on their own but from what I usually observe, it needs to be done there PLUS with at least a healthy couple and for some issues, a solid CHRISTIAN counselor who can navigate difficult, hot or reoccurring topics/issues and give tools for the future.

                    Under the stars Answered on April 21, 2020.
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                      Oops, didn’t see your second question SoA about her seeing me nude.  She has no problem at all with that.  I sleep nude, as mentioned earlier, we will shower together at times, lights are on quite often during LM and she has no problem if I am roaming the house naked (as long as our son isn’t around!)  No shame in seeing each other.  Oh, I should say that of the two, I am more the exhibisionist and riskier spouse.  She’s more reserved, but then I haven’t asked if her not walking around nude casually in the day is because of being body conscious or for other reasons. I should ask.

                      On the floor Answered on April 21, 2020.
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                        Yes, frequently. Even when we are apart so much (by the time I go home at the end of may it will have been 60 days since we were together) we enjoy “dates”, we sometimes shower together by way of video chat, and she’s even been known to flash me.
                        She does not find either her parts or mine attractive, but she’s come to terms with me seeing all of her, and I am truly grateful for it.

                        Fell out of ... Answered on April 21, 2020.
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